Slept with a married man who said he was single

[Ashlyn]

What is the name of your state? Georgia
I met a guy on a dating website. We have dated off and on for about 2 and a half years. He pressured me into sleeping with him once. He tried to get me to sleep with him more but I refused. We have continued to have a relationship but I have kept him more at arms length because I was trying to get to know him better before I let myself get any more involved. Recently I started to get suspicious. I asked him point blank if he was married. He said he was insulted that I would ask such a thing and that of course he wasn't. I decided to do a background check. I found out he is married. I also found out he had been lying about almost everything. I want to expose him. I have been thinking of either writing to his wife or going to their house and telling her in person or writing to all his neighbors and telling them what he has done. I am not sure what to do yet. He has wasted a lot of my time and kept me from meeting other people, plus I never would have slept with him had I known he was married. What would you do? I don't want this guy to do this to anyone else and I feel sorry for his wife. If I were in her place, I would want to know. I think this guy has a serious problem.

[BelizeBreeze]

Originally Posted by Ashlyn

What is the name of your state? Georgia
I met a guy on a dating website. We have dated off and on for about 2 and a half years. He pressured me into sleeping with him once. He tried to get me to sleep with him more but I refused. We have continued to have a relationship but I have kept him more at arms length because I was trying to get to know him better before I let myself get any more involved. Recently I started to get suspicious. I asked him point blank if he was married. He said he was insulted that I would ask such a thing and that of course he wasn't. I decided to do a background check. I found out he is married. I also found out he had been lying about almost everything. I want to expose him. I have been thinking of either writing to his wife or going to their house and telling her in person or writing to all his neighbors and telling them what he has done. I am not sure what to do yet. He has wasted a lot of my time and kept me from meeting other people, plus I never would have slept with him had I known he was married. What would you do? I don't want this guy to do this to anyone else and I feel sorry for his wife. If I were in her place, I would want to know. I think this guy has a serious problem.What is the name of your state?

I would have dumped you after the first month of not sleeping with me.

As for what you can do, you can grow up and move on. Unless of course, you want to lose everything in a defamation lawsuit.

[Zigner]

You know what they say about a woman scorned...

You should chalk this up as a bad lesson to have to learn...and move on. Let it go.


EDIT:
Actually, BB's advice is a bit more to the point than mine

[Shay-Pari'e]

[quote=Ashlyn;1566154]What is the name of your state? Georgia
I met a guy on a dating website. We have dated off and on for about 2 and a half years. He pressured me into sleeping with him once. He tried to get me to sleep with him more but I refused. We have continued to have a relationship but I have kept him more at arms length because I was trying to get to know him better before I let myself get any more involved. Recently I started to get suspicious. I asked him point blank if he was married. He said he was insulted that I would ask such a thing and that of course he wasn't. I decided to do a background check. I found out he is married. I also found out he had been lying about almost everything. I want to expose him. I have been thinking of either writing to his wife or going to their house and telling her in person or writing to all his neighbors and telling them what he has done. I am not sure what to do yet. He has wasted a lot of my time and kept me from meeting other people, plus I never would have slept with him had I known he was married. What would you do? I don't want this guy to do this to anyone else and I feel sorry for his wife. If I were in her place, I would want to know. I think this guy has a serious problem.What is the name of your state?

I think you have a serious problem.

[gawm]

Does he have any pet bunnies you can boil and leave on the stove for his wife to find?

[Zigner]

gawm - OP WAS the pet bunny in this case

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by Ashlyn

What is the name of your state? Georgia
I met a guy on a dating website. We have dated off and on for about 2 and a half years. He pressured me into sleeping with him once. He tried to get me to sleep with him more but I refused. We have continued to have a relationship but I have kept him more at arms length because I was trying to get to know him better before I let myself get any more involved. Recently I started to get suspicious. I asked him point blank if he was married. He said he was insulted that I would ask such a thing and that of course he wasn't. I decided to do a background check. I found out he is married. I also found out he had been lying about almost everything. I want to expose him. I have been thinking of either writing to his wife or going to their house and telling her in person or writing to all his neighbors and telling them what he has done. I am not sure what to do yet. He has wasted a lot of my time and kept me from meeting other people, plus I never would have slept with him had I known he was married. What would you do? I don't want this guy to do this to anyone else and I feel sorry for his wife. If I were in her place, I would want to know. I think this guy has a serious problem.

Unless you are 17 AND grew up under a rock that was in a cave on top of Mt. Everest it shouldn't have taken you 2 and a 1/2 YEARS to figure out this POS was married!!
When a guy doesn't show you his house, or bring you to meet his family or any of the things normal people do after 2 or 3 months of dating...well ...you should have the brains to see the writing on the wall....Move on ....be pleased you didn't get preggers....or a disease...