(California)
Was wondering your thoughts about narcissists in families and inheritance.
My older sibling has been coveting inheritance since it belonged to our grandparents. Even my cousins noticed, 30 years ago, and gave him the nickname "Mr. Inheritance." Now that I am learning more and more about what narcissists are capable of, I am highly suspicious he will attempt to manipulate our senile father regarding such matters.
In fact, I am informed that older sibling recently moved from another state to the town next to father's house. Our half-sis, will not reply to any of my messages about senile father's state of mind and the aggressive and abusive (and illegal) acts he's done recently. He stole and hocked a $5000 business inventory item from me for no reason (this is when I discovered he was senile 6 years ago, must be far worse by now), after he agreed to keep it in his garage for a few months until I could get there from from overseas. My family and I get there before the holiday, I was in the process of taking it off his hand when I was informed it was gone. The excuse given was, "uh, we gave that money gift last year". So that justifies theft and sabotage of my business deal, apparently. Obviously, senile father is scapegoating me, for some reason.
There is a lot more incoherent communication from senile father when I attempted to discuss his abhorrent and destructive misbehavior. A bunch of lies and nonsense, but I believe the REAL reason he stole my merchandise, is to "punish" me for not being able to come for thanksgiving, and having to postpone our visit to end of year. I live overseas, and though it was our full intention to try and visit for Thxgvg, business just wouldnt allow it.
I have done nothing wrong -- just trying to do business, take care of my family and, quite normally, thought my father might have an interest in my success. Apparently not since he is not living in reality.
Knowing my narcissist sibling, I do suspect his covetousness will lead him to attempt to manipulate the situation FULLY. He has gone on smear campaigns in the family before - against me. He has been pathologically envious and has "had it in" for me since childhood. He would physically abuse me, daily, often 3 times a day in early childhood. He is cluster-B, all the way.
OK, so what would you do if you were in my shoes? Do you have any experience or education about the legal stuff relating to narcissists in families? Should I get a lawyer and private investigator at the ready?
At least I have been gathering evidence of the incoherent and self-contradicting communications of senile father that demonstrate some serious psychosis and senility... in his own writing. I have evidence of his theft of my business inventory, etc. Will any of that hold in court?
I hadn't thought about this as a possible danger before.... but seems clear and present now that I am learning more about cluster-B types. I am advised by some sites to find a lawyer who is educated on cluster-B's. I would appreciate any advice you have on that.
Thanks.
Was wondering your thoughts about narcissists in families and inheritance.
My older sibling has been coveting inheritance since it belonged to our grandparents. Even my cousins noticed, 30 years ago, and gave him the nickname "Mr. Inheritance." Now that I am learning more and more about what narcissists are capable of, I am highly suspicious he will attempt to manipulate our senile father regarding such matters.
In fact, I am informed that older sibling recently moved from another state to the town next to father's house. Our half-sis, will not reply to any of my messages about senile father's state of mind and the aggressive and abusive (and illegal) acts he's done recently. He stole and hocked a $5000 business inventory item from me for no reason (this is when I discovered he was senile 6 years ago, must be far worse by now), after he agreed to keep it in his garage for a few months until I could get there from from overseas. My family and I get there before the holiday, I was in the process of taking it off his hand when I was informed it was gone. The excuse given was, "uh, we gave that money gift last year". So that justifies theft and sabotage of my business deal, apparently. Obviously, senile father is scapegoating me, for some reason.
There is a lot more incoherent communication from senile father when I attempted to discuss his abhorrent and destructive misbehavior. A bunch of lies and nonsense, but I believe the REAL reason he stole my merchandise, is to "punish" me for not being able to come for thanksgiving, and having to postpone our visit to end of year. I live overseas, and though it was our full intention to try and visit for Thxgvg, business just wouldnt allow it.
I have done nothing wrong -- just trying to do business, take care of my family and, quite normally, thought my father might have an interest in my success. Apparently not since he is not living in reality.
Knowing my narcissist sibling, I do suspect his covetousness will lead him to attempt to manipulate the situation FULLY. He has gone on smear campaigns in the family before - against me. He has been pathologically envious and has "had it in" for me since childhood. He would physically abuse me, daily, often 3 times a day in early childhood. He is cluster-B, all the way.
OK, so what would you do if you were in my shoes? Do you have any experience or education about the legal stuff relating to narcissists in families? Should I get a lawyer and private investigator at the ready?
At least I have been gathering evidence of the incoherent and self-contradicting communications of senile father that demonstrate some serious psychosis and senility... in his own writing. I have evidence of his theft of my business inventory, etc. Will any of that hold in court?
I hadn't thought about this as a possible danger before.... but seems clear and present now that I am learning more about cluster-B types. I am advised by some sites to find a lawyer who is educated on cluster-B's. I would appreciate any advice you have on that.
Thanks.