rhiannon65
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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Illinois
My father remarried about 20 years ago and my sister & I never had a great relationship with his new wife. Anyway, dad passed away recently and his wife is having her sister in law (her brother's wife) and her girlfriends help with all the arrangements, leaving out my sister & I, though we asked to help.
Since there was so much animosity from her (she was only 15 years older than my sister and I, and had her own 6 year old, she may have been threatened by us?), I am hoping that she will make sure things are taken care of correctly.
I am not getting a 'warm fuzzy' so far. For example:
I called his union hall this morning to see about his pension/insurance (in an effort to help, since I know it would be going to his wife, just his SS) and I was told "all that information was given to your aunt last week". Funny, I have two aunts. One is over 75 and living in a nursing home, and the other wasn't called until Saturday - the union hall is closed on the weekends...does that mean my dad's wife is having her SIL or girlfriends posing as someone else to gain info? I want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she was just overwhelmed, but I really don't like the idea of her having her relatives and friends passing themselves off as someone else.
example 2
I contacted his insurance companies (he worked construction and had a substantial amount of life insurance so that my mom and us kids would be okay for a while if something would have happened to him), but was told that his wife submitted instructions that they were not to speak to anyone else about his policies - essentially the information was frozen.
Now, don't get me wrong, if he had anything to leave us, it would be a surprise (he lived life to the fullest), but if he left anything to my sister & I (or our kids), I would like to see it distributed and not hidden or squandered. His wife hasn't worked in a year due to surgery, so it is in her best interest as well to see it taken care of in a timely manner. I don't want to have any arguments, or family drama.
If he left a will, it would have to be filed, right? What if she didn't know he had one (unlikely, but you never know)? Can she NOT file it? What if he doesn't have a will at all?
Her (my dad's wife) daughter had a child and allegedly either she or she and my dad attempted to gain custody of the child - if he (my dad) is listed as his guardian is the child considered an heir?
I know this is a lot to ask. Thanks
My father remarried about 20 years ago and my sister & I never had a great relationship with his new wife. Anyway, dad passed away recently and his wife is having her sister in law (her brother's wife) and her girlfriends help with all the arrangements, leaving out my sister & I, though we asked to help.
Since there was so much animosity from her (she was only 15 years older than my sister and I, and had her own 6 year old, she may have been threatened by us?), I am hoping that she will make sure things are taken care of correctly.
I am not getting a 'warm fuzzy' so far. For example:
I called his union hall this morning to see about his pension/insurance (in an effort to help, since I know it would be going to his wife, just his SS) and I was told "all that information was given to your aunt last week". Funny, I have two aunts. One is over 75 and living in a nursing home, and the other wasn't called until Saturday - the union hall is closed on the weekends...does that mean my dad's wife is having her SIL or girlfriends posing as someone else to gain info? I want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she was just overwhelmed, but I really don't like the idea of her having her relatives and friends passing themselves off as someone else.
example 2
I contacted his insurance companies (he worked construction and had a substantial amount of life insurance so that my mom and us kids would be okay for a while if something would have happened to him), but was told that his wife submitted instructions that they were not to speak to anyone else about his policies - essentially the information was frozen.
Now, don't get me wrong, if he had anything to leave us, it would be a surprise (he lived life to the fullest), but if he left anything to my sister & I (or our kids), I would like to see it distributed and not hidden or squandered. His wife hasn't worked in a year due to surgery, so it is in her best interest as well to see it taken care of in a timely manner. I don't want to have any arguments, or family drama.
If he left a will, it would have to be filed, right? What if she didn't know he had one (unlikely, but you never know)? Can she NOT file it? What if he doesn't have a will at all?
Her (my dad's wife) daughter had a child and allegedly either she or she and my dad attempted to gain custody of the child - if he (my dad) is listed as his guardian is the child considered an heir?
I know this is a lot to ask. Thanks