Loaned money to a friend who is dying. How to?

[rubicon1020]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CA. A decade-long friend of mine recently was diagonosed with cancer, and called me for financial help for alternative therapy treatments. I sent her a check for $1000 three weeks ago. Unfortunately, the cancer spread fast, and she is in the hospital on her death bed, in a drug induced unconciousness. (And unlikely to regain it before she dies.) She has no will, no designated legal power of attorney (just one for medical decisions), no family other than a remote cousin, and probably no money, just possessions. I can produce the cancelled check to prove I gave her the money, but no other proof, that if was a loan; nothing in writing, no IOU, or anything. Can I make a claim to probate? Should I discuss this with her cousin, and hope he'll be reasonable? And I feel terrible about discussing this with any one during the last few days that she's still alive. I may discuss this with people gathered at her memorial service after her death. It will be the only time I'll see her associates, whom I otherwise do not know. Any suggestions?

 

[HomeGuru]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CA. A decade-long friend of mine recently was diagonosed with cancer, and called me for financial help for alternative therapy treatments. I sent her a check for $1000 three weeks ago. Unfortunately, the cancer spread fast, and she is in the hospital on her death bed, in a drug induced unconciousness. (And unlikely to regain it before she dies.) She has no will, no designated legal power of attorney (just one for medical decisions), no family other than a remote cousin, and probably no money, just possessions. I can produce the cancelled check to prove I gave her the money, but no other proof, that if was a loan; nothing in writing, no IOU, or anything. Can I make a claim to probate? Should I discuss this with her cousin, and hope he'll be reasonable? And I feel terrible about discussing this with any one during the last few days that she's still alive. I may discuss this with people gathered at her memorial service after her death. It will be the only time I'll see her associates, whom I otherwise do not know. Any suggestions?

**A: file to have the loan repaid in probate. So not discuss this matter at her memorial service.

 

[Dandy Don]

Wait 30 days to see if anyone files at the county courthouse probate court to be her administrator (and then file a claim with the administrator), but that is most unlikely if you say she doesn't have much of any assets. Just chalk it up to needed assistance that you gave to a dying friend--you will be rewarded in heaven for doing such.