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rlwarren2000
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What is the name of your state? Virginia
My wife and I were divorced in 1998. Our divorce was completely my fault. Adultery. She filed for divorce and due to my guilt, I did nothing to stop or change the agreement her attorney set up. It allowed for her to receive alimony and at the onset was not outrageous. When we no longer had any children to support, the child support ended, but her alimony increased by about 40% or more. As I received increase, she would get the same increase percentage that I received. I was working a good job at the time and although did not complain, thought I was paying too much. In October of 2001, I was laid off from my job and was out of work until September. I basically lived off of my 401k. I not once missed a payment. Now I am working at a job making 30% less than before due to the market. Needless to say, I am not able to make my bills. I am not able to make up my retirement, yet my ex-wife is not moving on this. She is threatening to take me to court if I miss a payment. I am in at a loss. I know the Va law states because this was set up as a personal agreement, it cannot be changed, but I am at the mercy of the courts here. WHAT CAN I DO?????
My wife and I were divorced in 1998. Our divorce was completely my fault. Adultery. She filed for divorce and due to my guilt, I did nothing to stop or change the agreement her attorney set up. It allowed for her to receive alimony and at the onset was not outrageous. When we no longer had any children to support, the child support ended, but her alimony increased by about 40% or more. As I received increase, she would get the same increase percentage that I received. I was working a good job at the time and although did not complain, thought I was paying too much. In October of 2001, I was laid off from my job and was out of work until September. I basically lived off of my 401k. I not once missed a payment. Now I am working at a job making 30% less than before due to the market. Needless to say, I am not able to make my bills. I am not able to make up my retirement, yet my ex-wife is not moving on this. She is threatening to take me to court if I miss a payment. I am in at a loss. I know the Va law states because this was set up as a personal agreement, it cannot be changed, but I am at the mercy of the courts here. WHAT CAN I DO?????