MamaLlama only:
You don't say what state you're from. However, in many states (Indiana is one example), you should know that even if a parent has a legal obligation for child support, that child support amount cannot be reduced by virtue of the fact that he/she chose to have other kids later.
The rationale: The parent knew about the obligation to support the first-born kids. If he/she chose to have other kids later, that's fine, but that's not a valid reason to reduce the support owed to the previous kids. The new kids are an additional obligation, not a basis for a reduced obligation for the first-born kids.
The law may be different in your top-secret state.