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Nethalia
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What is the name of your state? NC
In December, my husband and I agreed to a -brief- separation wherein I would take our son and move in with my parents (which would take me out of our state of residence) and he would move back in with his family until such time as we could save money and become more financially secure. We had hoped this would ease all the arguing/stressing over money as well as give us some breathing room and hopefully get back on track.
We were communicating mainly through e-mails. About two weeks after I arrived at my parent's home, my husband stopped calling and his e-mails became hostile/unfriendly. Confused, I traveled to see him in order to discuss the sudden anger and refusal to be cooperative. He asked me to leave and not return. I gladly did so, still uncertain where the hostilty came from.
It is now mid-March. I have not heard from my husband in any form in almost three weeks. The last e-mail I had only discussed his options for coming down to get our son and taking him back with him, leaving me behind. I have discussed the situation with an attorney and I have been told that if I wish to file for divorce right now, I will have to return to our state of residence and give just cause for why I feel it is necessary to live out of state with our son.
My question is this: Why must I return to our former state of residence? Can I not file here in North Carolina and give just cause for why we are here? I am worried that if I wait and my husband files first, that will end up putting our son through a nasty custody battle that will only hurt him in the long run. But returning to my former state without any place to stay for the duration will be entirely too expensive for me. Any ideas?
In December, my husband and I agreed to a -brief- separation wherein I would take our son and move in with my parents (which would take me out of our state of residence) and he would move back in with his family until such time as we could save money and become more financially secure. We had hoped this would ease all the arguing/stressing over money as well as give us some breathing room and hopefully get back on track.
We were communicating mainly through e-mails. About two weeks after I arrived at my parent's home, my husband stopped calling and his e-mails became hostile/unfriendly. Confused, I traveled to see him in order to discuss the sudden anger and refusal to be cooperative. He asked me to leave and not return. I gladly did so, still uncertain where the hostilty came from.
It is now mid-March. I have not heard from my husband in any form in almost three weeks. The last e-mail I had only discussed his options for coming down to get our son and taking him back with him, leaving me behind. I have discussed the situation with an attorney and I have been told that if I wish to file for divorce right now, I will have to return to our state of residence and give just cause for why I feel it is necessary to live out of state with our son.
My question is this: Why must I return to our former state of residence? Can I not file here in North Carolina and give just cause for why we are here? I am worried that if I wait and my husband files first, that will end up putting our son through a nasty custody battle that will only hurt him in the long run. But returning to my former state without any place to stay for the duration will be entirely too expensive for me. Any ideas?