Christine050251
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? someone please advise me so I don't worry about this!
Florida
I am sure I am not using this to post correctly but here goes. I guess someone will understand and I'll make this brief as possible.
my hubby and I have been married for 10 years and have a beautiful adopted daughter of 14months. I am 51 and he is 44.
I have excellent credit, and most everything is under my name.
His credit is awfull. It it my house, I'm on the deed and he on the morgage. ( by law ) I have borrowed many times on my credit cards and morgage to help him out, way up into the 40 K range!
I found out he was having an affair all of 2002. But I am trying to make the marriage work. It is very hard. He even made love to her in his parents bed many times while they were up north.
there is more, but I won't go into it.
here is the question and what can I do, and should I worry.
1. his parents are sickly and wanting to leave HIM a nice, free and clear duplex, maybe 2 duplexes if they build another before they pass. His dad wants it only in my husbands name. ( my husband agrees but tries to console me and tell me that he wants me on it) I can read between the lines, and my husband confesses, that in case I should leave him they don't want me to own any or be able to do
anything to get money out of my husband should we divorce. He owes me well over 40 K for bailing him out of failed businesses and even borrowing to keep the bills paid as he wasn't bringing in enough money to support the family as he had his "girlfriend" you see.
So should I be sweet and nice and try to get them to include me
and him in the will? or just because he inherits it and we are still lmarried it is mine also even though my name isn't on it. ( WE LIVE IN FLORIDA) I know that is the way they say my morgage works.
I do have 2 small home businesses and SHOW more money comming in than he does, even though he makes more.
I have been saving invoices to prove his income should need be some day.
2. Another question was, If I ( or attorney) write up and agreement between my husband and I or a "post nuptual", and list all he owes me and that he will not force me to sell my home in case of divorce, will that hold up if my husband signs it? I have had this house for 23 years and raised 3 kids in it. I don't want to have to sell it, nor do I feel I have to "buy him out" All the morgage checks are from MY checking account. We have nothing at all "joint" for fear of combining out credit.
Please I need some answers, I don't know what to do.
I am a Christian woman, homeschool and basically a nice person.
I am shocked at all this and want to protect my home and also get some of my money back to help pay down my morgage so I will be able to survive in case I should decide to divorce. I don't want to and will try not to but the hurt is unbearable.
In Christ,
Linda
Florida
I am sure I am not using this to post correctly but here goes. I guess someone will understand and I'll make this brief as possible.
my hubby and I have been married for 10 years and have a beautiful adopted daughter of 14months. I am 51 and he is 44.
I have excellent credit, and most everything is under my name.
His credit is awfull. It it my house, I'm on the deed and he on the morgage. ( by law ) I have borrowed many times on my credit cards and morgage to help him out, way up into the 40 K range!
I found out he was having an affair all of 2002. But I am trying to make the marriage work. It is very hard. He even made love to her in his parents bed many times while they were up north.
there is more, but I won't go into it.
here is the question and what can I do, and should I worry.
1. his parents are sickly and wanting to leave HIM a nice, free and clear duplex, maybe 2 duplexes if they build another before they pass. His dad wants it only in my husbands name. ( my husband agrees but tries to console me and tell me that he wants me on it) I can read between the lines, and my husband confesses, that in case I should leave him they don't want me to own any or be able to do
anything to get money out of my husband should we divorce. He owes me well over 40 K for bailing him out of failed businesses and even borrowing to keep the bills paid as he wasn't bringing in enough money to support the family as he had his "girlfriend" you see.
So should I be sweet and nice and try to get them to include me
and him in the will? or just because he inherits it and we are still lmarried it is mine also even though my name isn't on it. ( WE LIVE IN FLORIDA) I know that is the way they say my morgage works.
I do have 2 small home businesses and SHOW more money comming in than he does, even though he makes more.
I have been saving invoices to prove his income should need be some day.
2. Another question was, If I ( or attorney) write up and agreement between my husband and I or a "post nuptual", and list all he owes me and that he will not force me to sell my home in case of divorce, will that hold up if my husband signs it? I have had this house for 23 years and raised 3 kids in it. I don't want to have to sell it, nor do I feel I have to "buy him out" All the morgage checks are from MY checking account. We have nothing at all "joint" for fear of combining out credit.
Please I need some answers, I don't know what to do.
I am a Christian woman, homeschool and basically a nice person.
I am shocked at all this and want to protect my home and also get some of my money back to help pay down my morgage so I will be able to survive in case I should decide to divorce. I don't want to and will try not to but the hurt is unbearable.
In Christ,
Linda