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What is the name of your state? Ohio
My girlfriend and I lived together for 10 years in a house that we both invested in half and half. She took out a loan for her part but I had to cosign it. We have been engaged for the entire 10 years.
We have split up, as I came home by surprise one night and found her missing, the house all boxed up and ready to go, and love letters of an affair she was having that included a guest list for their planned wedding.
During the years, I paid virtually ALL bills , from utilities and grocieries, to furniture purchases, landscaping, utilities, taxes, and insurance. Often she would make a purchase with her credit card but then I would pay off her credit card at the end of the month
I had to leave town to go back to work and when I did, she put most of the house contents in storage , taking pretty much everything from decorations and kitchen cabinet stuffs to our entire living, dining, and 1 bedroom set, leaving just bare walls and floor. She put the contents in storage, took her clothes, and left.
It looked like she was going to make one more trip back so I changed the locks.
We have a legal document that says when we moved in, our intention was to keep our respective equity in the house, separate.
I discussed this with an attorney but I have not yet hired one. I was disturbed when the attorney advised that she gets to keep the engagement ring because in every case I’ve been able to find on the internet with regards to Ohio law indicates the opposite , that the ring goes back to the buyer, especially if the woman is responsible for ending the relationship.
She has my stuff. What are my options?
What if she breaks in to the house for round 2? I have a job to do out of state so I can’t babysit.
I plan to buy her equity in the house and become sole owner via her filling out a quit claim. Do I need a lawyer to assist me and represent my end for this transaction and is there anything I need to do with this quit claim once I get it besides drop it off at the recorder’s office?
When is she officially out? At what point does she give up rights to come live there, as soon as it is clear she has moved out such as when she removed all her personal belongings and clothes (as in now), or is it when she delivers the Quip Claim to me, or is it when she files for a change of address?
What is a good way to do the payoff/quip claim exchange because what if I pay off the house loan, for which both are names are on but she has been solely responsible for paying she decides not to deliver the quip claim?
Do I have to pay taxes or anything by her selling me her equity?
If it comes down to it, what kind of legal fees can I expect to pay to fight her for my share of the household goods and the ring and settlement of the house, assuming she fights back with equal vengeance? The relationship ended because she decided to have an affair while I was out of town on a job and clean me out while I was away but I just happened to come home that night to find a house without her, her love letters, and a house all boxed up. She is claiming that my behavior drove her too it by using illegal drugs and ignoring her. She is the one ending it.
The engagement has been 10 years because I never could come to settling onto an actual marriage date so the delay was my fault.
She claims she is holding my things as a starting point for negotiation plus claiming that some of the furniture were “Valentine’s Day gifts”, which they most certainly were not.
My girlfriend and I lived together for 10 years in a house that we both invested in half and half. She took out a loan for her part but I had to cosign it. We have been engaged for the entire 10 years.
We have split up, as I came home by surprise one night and found her missing, the house all boxed up and ready to go, and love letters of an affair she was having that included a guest list for their planned wedding.
During the years, I paid virtually ALL bills , from utilities and grocieries, to furniture purchases, landscaping, utilities, taxes, and insurance. Often she would make a purchase with her credit card but then I would pay off her credit card at the end of the month
I had to leave town to go back to work and when I did, she put most of the house contents in storage , taking pretty much everything from decorations and kitchen cabinet stuffs to our entire living, dining, and 1 bedroom set, leaving just bare walls and floor. She put the contents in storage, took her clothes, and left.
It looked like she was going to make one more trip back so I changed the locks.
We have a legal document that says when we moved in, our intention was to keep our respective equity in the house, separate.
I discussed this with an attorney but I have not yet hired one. I was disturbed when the attorney advised that she gets to keep the engagement ring because in every case I’ve been able to find on the internet with regards to Ohio law indicates the opposite , that the ring goes back to the buyer, especially if the woman is responsible for ending the relationship.
She has my stuff. What are my options?
What if she breaks in to the house for round 2? I have a job to do out of state so I can’t babysit.
I plan to buy her equity in the house and become sole owner via her filling out a quit claim. Do I need a lawyer to assist me and represent my end for this transaction and is there anything I need to do with this quit claim once I get it besides drop it off at the recorder’s office?
When is she officially out? At what point does she give up rights to come live there, as soon as it is clear she has moved out such as when she removed all her personal belongings and clothes (as in now), or is it when she delivers the Quip Claim to me, or is it when she files for a change of address?
What is a good way to do the payoff/quip claim exchange because what if I pay off the house loan, for which both are names are on but she has been solely responsible for paying she decides not to deliver the quip claim?
Do I have to pay taxes or anything by her selling me her equity?
If it comes down to it, what kind of legal fees can I expect to pay to fight her for my share of the household goods and the ring and settlement of the house, assuming she fights back with equal vengeance? The relationship ended because she decided to have an affair while I was out of town on a job and clean me out while I was away but I just happened to come home that night to find a house without her, her love letters, and a house all boxed up. She is claiming that my behavior drove her too it by using illegal drugs and ignoring her. She is the one ending it.
The engagement has been 10 years because I never could come to settling onto an actual marriage date so the delay was my fault.
She claims she is holding my things as a starting point for negotiation plus claiming that some of the furniture were “Valentine’s Day gifts”, which they most certainly were not.
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