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Mrs.Brown
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What is the name of your state? California
I have a very urgent matter. My husband and I are trying to adopt a little disabled boy from Russia. He needs to come to America where he can get the treatment he needs or he will never be able to walk. The problem is this: I've been told that we will not be able to adopt him because we have a report with CPS. I have a 15 year old biological son who is severely disabled. He has XYY Syndrome, Tourettes Syndrome, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, ADHD, and possibly a mild form of PDD. About two weeks ago he became agetated and violent. He started smashing and breaking plates and cups against the wall. He is very big (6'1") for his age and I'm very petite (5'0"). Luckily (or unluckily) my husband was there at the time. He hit my son to get him to stop. Then he took him out side the house and sat him down on the front porch until he was able to calm himself down. I called my sons therapist who told me he will have to report the incident because he is mandated by the state to do so. He said that if I call and report the incident myself that it will look alot better for us. So I did just that. The next thing I know CPS took my son to the Childrens Shelter here in San Jose. They quickly figured out that Nick has disabilities and was complaining to me that his behavior was very bad at the shelter. After speaking with the social worker she said that she came to the conclusion that this was more of a "mental health" issue than a "child abuse" issue. She did not want him to come home. Not for fear of his safety but for fear of ours. I managed to talk them into letting him come home. I spoke with her quite a bit and agreed with her that I will place my son in a long term residential care facility until he is 18 and then be can transfer over to an adult long term care facility. So he will be out of the house in a matter of a couple of months or less.
No charges were brought against my husband for this incident or similar incidents (two others for a total of three). I was told that it did not matter. If their are any CPS reports that we can not adopt.
Is there anything we can do? In my heart this little boy is my son. His medical condition is correctable. It's only physical. It would be such a nice change to help someone who can actually be helped. I've read that there are over a million orphans in Russia. When people do go over there to adopt they usually pick healthy children. That being said, it seems as though this boy has LESS than a one in a million chance of being adopted. On top of that he will probably live his entire life crippled because we was not able to get the medical attention he needs in his homeland of Russia. They are just too poor there. We are struggling financially here too, but not like them. My husband has a union job with good medical benefits.
Does anyone have any advice? Is there anything I can do? Can anyone help us? PLEASE!!!!!!!
Sincerely,
Mrs. Brown
I have a very urgent matter. My husband and I are trying to adopt a little disabled boy from Russia. He needs to come to America where he can get the treatment he needs or he will never be able to walk. The problem is this: I've been told that we will not be able to adopt him because we have a report with CPS. I have a 15 year old biological son who is severely disabled. He has XYY Syndrome, Tourettes Syndrome, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, ADHD, and possibly a mild form of PDD. About two weeks ago he became agetated and violent. He started smashing and breaking plates and cups against the wall. He is very big (6'1") for his age and I'm very petite (5'0"). Luckily (or unluckily) my husband was there at the time. He hit my son to get him to stop. Then he took him out side the house and sat him down on the front porch until he was able to calm himself down. I called my sons therapist who told me he will have to report the incident because he is mandated by the state to do so. He said that if I call and report the incident myself that it will look alot better for us. So I did just that. The next thing I know CPS took my son to the Childrens Shelter here in San Jose. They quickly figured out that Nick has disabilities and was complaining to me that his behavior was very bad at the shelter. After speaking with the social worker she said that she came to the conclusion that this was more of a "mental health" issue than a "child abuse" issue. She did not want him to come home. Not for fear of his safety but for fear of ours. I managed to talk them into letting him come home. I spoke with her quite a bit and agreed with her that I will place my son in a long term residential care facility until he is 18 and then be can transfer over to an adult long term care facility. So he will be out of the house in a matter of a couple of months or less.
No charges were brought against my husband for this incident or similar incidents (two others for a total of three). I was told that it did not matter. If their are any CPS reports that we can not adopt.
Is there anything we can do? In my heart this little boy is my son. His medical condition is correctable. It's only physical. It would be such a nice change to help someone who can actually be helped. I've read that there are over a million orphans in Russia. When people do go over there to adopt they usually pick healthy children. That being said, it seems as though this boy has LESS than a one in a million chance of being adopted. On top of that he will probably live his entire life crippled because we was not able to get the medical attention he needs in his homeland of Russia. They are just too poor there. We are struggling financially here too, but not like them. My husband has a union job with good medical benefits.
Does anyone have any advice? Is there anything I can do? Can anyone help us? PLEASE!!!!!!!
Sincerely,
Mrs. Brown