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poppart
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What is the name of your state? New York
I have three small children from a previous marriage, there father does not see them, does not have court ordered visitation and does not share custody, we rarely hear from him, but he does pay court ordered child support. My children call their step-dad "dad" and I would have him adopt them but then I don't think my ex would have to support them. It is not a money thing, it is a responsibility thing to me, if all I can get out of him is money then I will settle for that, it is my belief that he needs to take care of them. But I am concerned that if something were to happen to me there would be no one to make decisions for my kids, my places let their step-dad sign for them, I wrote a note so he can take them to the Dr. but if they needed to go to the ER then I don't know what would happen. How do I get it so he is at least guardian of them and do I have to get my ex's approval to do this? If he has to be involved he will put up a big stink and fight it. I would also like to change the kids' last name eventually so we all have the same last name, will my ex have to approve of this also? Whenever we need to contact my ex he is abusive toward us so I like to have as little contact with him as possible.
I have three small children from a previous marriage, there father does not see them, does not have court ordered visitation and does not share custody, we rarely hear from him, but he does pay court ordered child support. My children call their step-dad "dad" and I would have him adopt them but then I don't think my ex would have to support them. It is not a money thing, it is a responsibility thing to me, if all I can get out of him is money then I will settle for that, it is my belief that he needs to take care of them. But I am concerned that if something were to happen to me there would be no one to make decisions for my kids, my places let their step-dad sign for them, I wrote a note so he can take them to the Dr. but if they needed to go to the ER then I don't know what would happen. How do I get it so he is at least guardian of them and do I have to get my ex's approval to do this? If he has to be involved he will put up a big stink and fight it. I would also like to change the kids' last name eventually so we all have the same last name, will my ex have to approve of this also? Whenever we need to contact my ex he is abusive toward us so I like to have as little contact with him as possible.