Well, Elaine, it could very well be that it's as the other posts here have said, that your man won't get divorced if he hasn't already. I don't know your personal situation, but I will tell you a bit of mine. I met my husband in 1988, when we worked together. He was married when I first met him and I was only 16 yrs old, working in the summer with my dad. I began working there full time at 18 years old. My husband's ex had left him for another man, and he wanted to take me out (when I was 18). I said ok. We dated (not seriously) for about 6 months. Then we began getting serious. It was then that his ex realized that he was moving on with his life, and that's when she decided that their marriage was worth saving. At that point, I told my husband point blank, if you want to take her back and work it out, don't let me stop you. He told me he didn't want to work anything out with her, their marriage was over and he wanted to be with me. It took 3 years, for the divorce to be finalized. We have been together for 9 years, married 5, and have 2 children and one on the way. So, like I said, maybe you can have a game-player on your hands, or maybe you just have a man who is truly a victim of circumstance...only you will truly be able to tell. I don't believe she can pursue you legally...I am not sure if she can pursue him legally though.