MikeRobinson29 said:
Gobonas99 - does this mean that we should all go ahead and turn our parents in for "child beating"
Seriously though, I appreciate the discussion that this has turned into.
I feared my Dad's hand and the belt yet respected the hell out of him. He was my best friend growing up and till the day he died last year.
The difference in his belt or spankings was that I could also talk to the man. If I every was in trouble and came to him first and talked about it, there were no punishments, no belt, no anything - because he taught me to take responsibility of my problems and come to him first before he found out about them.
I find it hard to believe that he would have been considered a child abuser by some of the people on this board.
My response:
Mike, you're a male, and so am I. We were, apparently, both brought up under the "same" belt. However, by today's standards and laws, yes, BOTH of our fathers would have been accused, tried and convicted for child beating. Laws have change since you and I were children - - and have changed dramatically!
Also, there's a REASON why I mentioned only "girls" in my response to you. First, being male, you are a lot stronger than most women - - and certainly your stepdaughter. Second, if you REALLY understood human physiology, you'd understand why little girls shouldn't be shaken, struck or otherwise jolted.
Speaking from a purely physiological standpoint, females really are the "fairer, and weaker" sex; i.e., you wouldn't want to be responsible for a detached uterus, would you? Additionally, you could damage her hymen.
Third, you'd have her father to deal with if he didn't agree with your "methods".
Fourth, if someone actually saw you strike your stepdaughter, you might get a visit from the police and / or by "Child Protective Services." I don't think you'd enjoy that "E-Ticket ride".
I understand what you're saying. But, in today's litigious world, and also due to a better medical understanding of the differences between girls and boys, I hope your "mind set" changes.
IAAL