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What is the name of your state? WV
I've read thru a lot of the posts on stalking/domestic violence, and can't quite find the answer to my question. This might be long, please bear with me... Two months ago, I met a local man in a chat room... chatted briefly, didnt' think much about it. The next day a tornado hit our town, he called my cell phone literally as the tornado was passing over my house. Of course I was freaked out about the storm, and didn't even think to ask him how he got my cell phone number. We actually know a lot of the same people though, so maybe that's it. Who knows. Regardless, I was panicked, he asked if I wanted him to come over, I said OK. He then pretty much wouldn't leave. I went to the beach 2 days later (without him) and the minute I was home he came here and would not leave. He seemed nice enough, but had no job, and it didn't take long for me to figure out that something wasn't right. I tried to break it off... but he would not quit calling. I went to work at 6 that evening, and by midnight there were 24 missed calls from him and only him. Finally, I handed the phone to a friend, who answered and talked to him, asking him to leave me alone, and told him if he continued to call then I would press charges for phone harrassment.
So the next day he switched from the phone to emails, and IM's... endless amounts of them, which I ignored, untill finally I wrote back asking him to go away, telling him I would press charges once again.. I had to reply 3 times telling him I would press charges if he didn't quit. Apparently this pissed him off.
Then it went to hacking into my computer, my email, my messenger... I couldn't figure out why my computer was acting so weird, so I ran a virus scan, no virus found, but some kind of malware/spyware had been installed, that Symantec said was not a random spam type thing, but something that somebody maliciously put on my computer and it logged every single key stroke I had made. Every time I would try to uninstall it things would turn themselves on and off, like my messenger mostly... when that started, I called a friend who knows a lot more about computers than I and he put up a firewall, the whole time I was getting messages from his id (which had been ignored before this) saying things like "I can do this all night" and "haha, irritating, isn't it?" That's when I went to the police.
The police said since he technically spent a few nights here, it would be considered domestic violence type stuff... I have printed up the messages and the emails, and here's the catch. There's been no real "threat" made, and he even admitted that "his threats won't hold up in a court of law because he was careful how he worded them" and that if I tried to press charges he would press them against me for slander (I'm not afraid of that one) and harrassment for "making up these ridiculous charges" against him.
Everything was quiet for about a week, then Friday night on the way home from work, SOMEBODY (in a SUV I didn't recognize) got behind me, literally right on my bumper... this could not have been some random road rage, it was 3:30am on a quiet country road with plenty of passing zones and NO traffic other than us. Right on my bumper at 60 mph, I called 911... the person kept flashing high beams on and off and on and off, passed me, got in front of me, slammed on the brakes, I didn't hit him... continued on at 12 mph for a min, they pulled over and turned their lights out. I told 911 nevermind, I think they left me alone, and next thing I know *poof* headlights in my back glass again, right on my bumper... he went to pass again but got beside me, and started to run me off the road. I called 911 back, I was so shaken up I couldn't get the tags.... and then this person pulled off. Pulled right onto the road that this same psycho lives on. Too much to be a coincidence. However, I can't prove it was him.
So the phone calls start again sat night, continue thru yesterday and really exploded today. I answered the first not knowing it was him, told him I did NOT want to talk to him, so not only is he calling now, but his friends are too. Saying he's pressing charges against me for saying he's doing all this stuff, blah blah. I've read enough posts on slander that I'm not worried about that, however, how can I get a restraining order or do anything without being able to prove it's him?? This has been going on for the past 2 months, and I was only around him 7 days!!! This is ridiculous! Please help, I'm at my wits end.
I've read thru a lot of the posts on stalking/domestic violence, and can't quite find the answer to my question. This might be long, please bear with me... Two months ago, I met a local man in a chat room... chatted briefly, didnt' think much about it. The next day a tornado hit our town, he called my cell phone literally as the tornado was passing over my house. Of course I was freaked out about the storm, and didn't even think to ask him how he got my cell phone number. We actually know a lot of the same people though, so maybe that's it. Who knows. Regardless, I was panicked, he asked if I wanted him to come over, I said OK. He then pretty much wouldn't leave. I went to the beach 2 days later (without him) and the minute I was home he came here and would not leave. He seemed nice enough, but had no job, and it didn't take long for me to figure out that something wasn't right. I tried to break it off... but he would not quit calling. I went to work at 6 that evening, and by midnight there were 24 missed calls from him and only him. Finally, I handed the phone to a friend, who answered and talked to him, asking him to leave me alone, and told him if he continued to call then I would press charges for phone harrassment.
So the next day he switched from the phone to emails, and IM's... endless amounts of them, which I ignored, untill finally I wrote back asking him to go away, telling him I would press charges once again.. I had to reply 3 times telling him I would press charges if he didn't quit. Apparently this pissed him off.
Then it went to hacking into my computer, my email, my messenger... I couldn't figure out why my computer was acting so weird, so I ran a virus scan, no virus found, but some kind of malware/spyware had been installed, that Symantec said was not a random spam type thing, but something that somebody maliciously put on my computer and it logged every single key stroke I had made. Every time I would try to uninstall it things would turn themselves on and off, like my messenger mostly... when that started, I called a friend who knows a lot more about computers than I and he put up a firewall, the whole time I was getting messages from his id (which had been ignored before this) saying things like "I can do this all night" and "haha, irritating, isn't it?" That's when I went to the police.
The police said since he technically spent a few nights here, it would be considered domestic violence type stuff... I have printed up the messages and the emails, and here's the catch. There's been no real "threat" made, and he even admitted that "his threats won't hold up in a court of law because he was careful how he worded them" and that if I tried to press charges he would press them against me for slander (I'm not afraid of that one) and harrassment for "making up these ridiculous charges" against him.
Everything was quiet for about a week, then Friday night on the way home from work, SOMEBODY (in a SUV I didn't recognize) got behind me, literally right on my bumper... this could not have been some random road rage, it was 3:30am on a quiet country road with plenty of passing zones and NO traffic other than us. Right on my bumper at 60 mph, I called 911... the person kept flashing high beams on and off and on and off, passed me, got in front of me, slammed on the brakes, I didn't hit him... continued on at 12 mph for a min, they pulled over and turned their lights out. I told 911 nevermind, I think they left me alone, and next thing I know *poof* headlights in my back glass again, right on my bumper... he went to pass again but got beside me, and started to run me off the road. I called 911 back, I was so shaken up I couldn't get the tags.... and then this person pulled off. Pulled right onto the road that this same psycho lives on. Too much to be a coincidence. However, I can't prove it was him.
So the phone calls start again sat night, continue thru yesterday and really exploded today. I answered the first not knowing it was him, told him I did NOT want to talk to him, so not only is he calling now, but his friends are too. Saying he's pressing charges against me for saying he's doing all this stuff, blah blah. I've read enough posts on slander that I'm not worried about that, however, how can I get a restraining order or do anything without being able to prove it's him?? This has been going on for the past 2 months, and I was only around him 7 days!!! This is ridiculous! Please help, I'm at my wits end.