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What is the name of your state? NC
My gm is 101 years old and has appointed me durable poa. She has complete mental capacity and makes all her own business decisions, I just execute them according to her wishes. She currently lives with my stepmother because that was my father's (my gm's son) home and where she has resided for the last 30 years. I was recently told that she should be living with me or in a nursing home if I was her poa. I admit, I have offered my home to her, but she says she doesn't want to move just yet. I'm inclined to agree with her because she has been there for 30 years. My feeling on this is that I don't have any right to force her to move anywhere seeing how she is mentally and physically stable. My understanding is that it is only when she becomesunable to care for herself or make decisions that I must step in a move her either in with me or a snf. I think where the resentment is coming from is the stepmother. However, i will add that my stepmother charges my gm a modest "rent" to live there, which covers groceries. All of my gm's other expenses are paid for by me out of her account. So, I don't see the problem with her not actually living with me. Is there any legal precedent which could clarify this? I'm a little confused as to whether the comment was made thinking that maybe my gm was an incompetent invalid and I was not doing "my job" properly by letting her live elsewhere. Since this is not the case, what should I say?
I apologize for the long query, but hope that someone can help,
Thanks
My gm is 101 years old and has appointed me durable poa. She has complete mental capacity and makes all her own business decisions, I just execute them according to her wishes. She currently lives with my stepmother because that was my father's (my gm's son) home and where she has resided for the last 30 years. I was recently told that she should be living with me or in a nursing home if I was her poa. I admit, I have offered my home to her, but she says she doesn't want to move just yet. I'm inclined to agree with her because she has been there for 30 years. My feeling on this is that I don't have any right to force her to move anywhere seeing how she is mentally and physically stable. My understanding is that it is only when she becomesunable to care for herself or make decisions that I must step in a move her either in with me or a snf. I think where the resentment is coming from is the stepmother. However, i will add that my stepmother charges my gm a modest "rent" to live there, which covers groceries. All of my gm's other expenses are paid for by me out of her account. So, I don't see the problem with her not actually living with me. Is there any legal precedent which could clarify this? I'm a little confused as to whether the comment was made thinking that maybe my gm was an incompetent invalid and I was not doing "my job" properly by letting her live elsewhere. Since this is not the case, what should I say?
I apologize for the long query, but hope that someone can help,
Thanks