fustrated29
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? california
I am absolutly shocked that after finally deciding enough is enough and filling out the 15 pages of reiterated information I was denied protection. I even included a picture of when my ex hit me (in front of my 6 yr old child). My ex is on drugs and just not in his right frame of mind I love him dearly honestly but can't be there to watch him kill himself being this self destructive. I have tried to support him and stay together but theres only so much you can do and when a person believes in a seperate reality it become apparent that there's no hope unless he wants it himself. I tried everything but getting this restraing order .....really! I wanted to work things out as adults and decide whats best for our child together despite our personal differences. He is absolutly gone mad and obsessive with me and the fact that I refuse to sleep with him he has gone off accusing me of sleeping with everyone under the sun and in his mind he believes this. Hating me has become easier then admitting we both were at fault for the dissolvement of our relationship but mainly his tendency to remain miserable and using narcotics and alcohol to support his pain had a major role in my termination of "us". I don't want it known that he is on drugs publicly and get arrested putting a tarnish on his record but he is forcing me to have no other choice. Evidently the fact that he has verbally threatened me, stalked my new friends, I have over 500 text messages of just imature irrational thoughts from him, harrassing my mom, neglecting our child except to question about me and my where abouts he hasn't ever even asked how she is doing in school or offered to get her shoes or supplies. I have to keep her over at my parents home for our safety if she lives with me he has every right to know where I am. I also just moved in to this live in elder care job its fairly new and if its not a long term thing I would rather not have her bouncing place to place stability and consistancy is extreamly important for children. I also set her up there (i visit and call through out the week taking her on weekends) school is two blocks from their house and I thought he would have an easier time of maintaing a relationship with her if I was not present but he has seen her only three times (broke promises of more x) and all were less then 1/2 hr visits. Its killing me not to have her here with me everyday to put her to bed and do all the things I normally do for her. I have to work with a stroke patient with limited mobility I can't be gone for too long nor do i have the funds to go back n forth but i maintain a strong relationship with my child. Telling her that daddy is just unwell and he is just busy ......I don't want her thinking he is a monster or neglecting her on purpose. He has now threatened to take her ......he is seriously unable to care for her. I'm scared that all this I've done to protect her and care for her best interests will be now destroyed because I refuse to have comunication with him as he yells insults and claims to want to harm me. I can't believe the judge denied my request to protect my self and family he is quite violent lately. Order was denied stamped with a see in court dec 9th immediatly contact family services for parent mediation classes.......
uh its an unsecure building no protection what so ever and only two days a week to go so if we are ordered to attend this he will have access to me! what the....... theres got to be a way to apeal that denied decision.......do I need to be hit just a few more times? does he need to kidnap and tramatize my little girl more first???????
we broke up in feb ........ i've waited this long putting up with alot of bs you have no idea how much crap he's instigated!!! what do i do? I may even loose this job and place to live if i can't legally keep him away from me! I got it so I couldhave time to heal not get into another relationship.
I am absolutly shocked that after finally deciding enough is enough and filling out the 15 pages of reiterated information I was denied protection. I even included a picture of when my ex hit me (in front of my 6 yr old child). My ex is on drugs and just not in his right frame of mind I love him dearly honestly but can't be there to watch him kill himself being this self destructive. I have tried to support him and stay together but theres only so much you can do and when a person believes in a seperate reality it become apparent that there's no hope unless he wants it himself. I tried everything but getting this restraing order .....really! I wanted to work things out as adults and decide whats best for our child together despite our personal differences. He is absolutly gone mad and obsessive with me and the fact that I refuse to sleep with him he has gone off accusing me of sleeping with everyone under the sun and in his mind he believes this. Hating me has become easier then admitting we both were at fault for the dissolvement of our relationship but mainly his tendency to remain miserable and using narcotics and alcohol to support his pain had a major role in my termination of "us". I don't want it known that he is on drugs publicly and get arrested putting a tarnish on his record but he is forcing me to have no other choice. Evidently the fact that he has verbally threatened me, stalked my new friends, I have over 500 text messages of just imature irrational thoughts from him, harrassing my mom, neglecting our child except to question about me and my where abouts he hasn't ever even asked how she is doing in school or offered to get her shoes or supplies. I have to keep her over at my parents home for our safety if she lives with me he has every right to know where I am. I also just moved in to this live in elder care job its fairly new and if its not a long term thing I would rather not have her bouncing place to place stability and consistancy is extreamly important for children. I also set her up there (i visit and call through out the week taking her on weekends) school is two blocks from their house and I thought he would have an easier time of maintaing a relationship with her if I was not present but he has seen her only three times (broke promises of more x) and all were less then 1/2 hr visits. Its killing me not to have her here with me everyday to put her to bed and do all the things I normally do for her. I have to work with a stroke patient with limited mobility I can't be gone for too long nor do i have the funds to go back n forth but i maintain a strong relationship with my child. Telling her that daddy is just unwell and he is just busy ......I don't want her thinking he is a monster or neglecting her on purpose. He has now threatened to take her ......he is seriously unable to care for her. I'm scared that all this I've done to protect her and care for her best interests will be now destroyed because I refuse to have comunication with him as he yells insults and claims to want to harm me. I can't believe the judge denied my request to protect my self and family he is quite violent lately. Order was denied stamped with a see in court dec 9th immediatly contact family services for parent mediation classes.......
uh its an unsecure building no protection what so ever and only two days a week to go so if we are ordered to attend this he will have access to me! what the....... theres got to be a way to apeal that denied decision.......do I need to be hit just a few more times? does he need to kidnap and tramatize my little girl more first???????
we broke up in feb ........ i've waited this long putting up with alot of bs you have no idea how much crap he's instigated!!! what do i do? I may even loose this job and place to live if i can't legally keep him away from me! I got it so I couldhave time to heal not get into another relationship.