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i am feeling very hopeless, and need help.i have lived with this person for 7 yrs, and we had the intent to marry but something always cameup, but i was a mother to his son, from 5th grade and the phiscal care giver, to now.12th grade. i was his wife in every way,but trusting him no matter what.i do chores, feed bottle calves (30)ata time, pulled pigs, everthing, i paid all the bills, as he didnot want me to get anoutside job the first 4 yrs,i wrote all his checks , signing his name for 7 yrs, as he had told me he had made me power of attorney, and more or less made me do all his banking, business deals, i can not tell you one thing i did not do as his wife and sons mother, school conferences, school reg, all of it. but we never had a checking acct together, as he said we did not need one because i could write his checks,i have wrote his chec to his banker(which is a very small town bank)for loans i have called his banker to see if we biught baby calves,he would be loaned the money , and told yes, the farm is in his name only, as it was because`in case he had to go bankr, he could put it in mine`.i have farm tax credit forms that i had to get for him at the court house, and had to be his wife to get, and he told me to sign as his wife mrs.his name.about 3 months ago he and the son started verbally abusing me , and he was treating me really bad, i found out he had been seeing another woman, when i finally confronted him about it he said`(a dirty name) and `we don`t need tyou anymore, son is almost out of school and can take care of him self,and the farm has no chores and the goverment is paying me not to palnt, and i found some one younger and better, and i want you to pack and get out!i was in total shock, and started crying, he then left bruises all over me, i filed a report, but he left on his own and never came back, i did not hear from him or see him for 8 days, he went by the house on the 9 th day and made obscen jester at me, so i put a restraining order on him.i went to the abuse hearing, and was totally treated like i was the abusier, and he was the abused, as there was no hearing, my laywer, who is no longer, never looked at any thing i had, as proof of abuse, or of all the factual proof of being a mother and a wife, he ask me to bring in any checks that i had of jims, and when i answered him, he would go to the door way and repeat everthing i said to him to, my abuisers lawyer. then he said the abuse hearing has been posponed until next monday, today we will deal with he( called the abuiser by name( his charges he filed on you! and one of them was he was no way married to me common law or other wise, and i would get nothing as i had shelter, and i forged his name on all his checks! my god, i was numb, i had never even knew this person in 7 yrs, and his son ws following his dads every move. my lawyer said i had nothing i could do about it, and could not get anything,even a small settlement for those 7 yrs, and because the son would start his last yr of school in a few days, (he will be 18 in 5 weeks) the cour twould tell me to move! this was my lawyer i had given 750.00 retainer to to defend me, i left there thinking about how i should just put a gun to my head, the whole thing has been a nightmare.but i need to know any answers i can get, as my abuse hearing was postponed to help the abusier abuse me , more. this is the truth every word. i need help. linda