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lyndarae
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What is the name of your state? North Carolina
I am 40 years old, have been married 17 years and have 3 children ages 17, 15 and 13. My husband is getting a divorce, he hired an attorney and found out how much his child support payments would be and that he would need to pay me some support until I was "rehabilitated" and able to support myself as I have not worked outside the home the entire marriage. He decided to hold off until he can better prepare himself for divorce. He told me I have to get a job, my son said this is so that he won't have to pay me any alimony. He got a post office box and he has opened a secret checking account and begun to hide funds, he signed my name on the joint tax refund check and has changed his tax filing status at work. He stopped depositing any money into the joint checking account so I have no access to any money. He is taking the children to and from school and bringing them meals. I would have to walk to a local shop and get a job there if I want any money. His father is an attorney in another state and my son told me that both he and his own lawyer told him to do this. I have been a loving and devoted mother and have never cheated on my husband. He has cheated in the past but I have no proof of any infidelity now, if that even matters. I have no family of my own and am completely dependent on him financially. I am feeling lost and trapped. He will not speak with me and uses our son as a go between. My question is can I get a lawyer without any money? Do I need to get a job to get some money to hire a lawyer? Would my getting a job now after all these years make it so he wouldn't have to pay support? All I could even make is minimum wage if I could even find a job. Should I file for divorce first? Is there a benefit in my staying married as long as possible, such as more equity in our marital home? Also, is there anything I can do to prepare myself? Is there something I can do about his forging my name on the joint tax refund check? I suppose he changed his filing status to somehow benefit himself and hurt me. Is there anything I should watch out for? I have been kicked out of our marital bed and sleep on a chair in the family room, I am confused and afraid. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
I am 40 years old, have been married 17 years and have 3 children ages 17, 15 and 13. My husband is getting a divorce, he hired an attorney and found out how much his child support payments would be and that he would need to pay me some support until I was "rehabilitated" and able to support myself as I have not worked outside the home the entire marriage. He decided to hold off until he can better prepare himself for divorce. He told me I have to get a job, my son said this is so that he won't have to pay me any alimony. He got a post office box and he has opened a secret checking account and begun to hide funds, he signed my name on the joint tax refund check and has changed his tax filing status at work. He stopped depositing any money into the joint checking account so I have no access to any money. He is taking the children to and from school and bringing them meals. I would have to walk to a local shop and get a job there if I want any money. His father is an attorney in another state and my son told me that both he and his own lawyer told him to do this. I have been a loving and devoted mother and have never cheated on my husband. He has cheated in the past but I have no proof of any infidelity now, if that even matters. I have no family of my own and am completely dependent on him financially. I am feeling lost and trapped. He will not speak with me and uses our son as a go between. My question is can I get a lawyer without any money? Do I need to get a job to get some money to hire a lawyer? Would my getting a job now after all these years make it so he wouldn't have to pay support? All I could even make is minimum wage if I could even find a job. Should I file for divorce first? Is there a benefit in my staying married as long as possible, such as more equity in our marital home? Also, is there anything I can do to prepare myself? Is there something I can do about his forging my name on the joint tax refund check? I suppose he changed his filing status to somehow benefit himself and hurt me. Is there anything I should watch out for? I have been kicked out of our marital bed and sleep on a chair in the family room, I am confused and afraid. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
