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MrNatural
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What is the name of your state? Oklahoma
In 1998 My then wife and I divorced. She fled to California with our baby daughter after sheran up massive debt. I was left with said debt and all the bills. No big deal...I tried to pay them off. After 2 months, I went out to try to work out our problems. The reconcilliation didn't work....I went back to Okalhoma to find a divorce decree waiting on me. Before the decree was final, I lost my job. The courst then enacted a 500 dollar a month Child support arrangement in my absence, I didn;t have the money to go to california on the courst whim. I did go out for a child custody hearing, but it was cancelled when the mother didn't show up.
So needless to say, I was in a financial bind...I could make the payments because I was out of work...CAlifornia and Oklahoma Living standards are much different, that 500 dollar payment ended up being once I was employed again almost 75% of my take home pay...I couldn't make the payment...I didn;t have the moneyu to go to california to challenge the order...I was caught...I can hear the Ex giggling in glee.
In 2001, I finally got a job that allowed me to start making payments again. I made payments from MArch 2001 to present. But in that time frame My back child support plus intrest blossomed to 18K...NOw I'm trying to figure out how to pay this amount off.
I want to pay what is mine, But someohow, I don;t feel I was treated fairly by the california courts...do I have any recourse in regards to the arrears? I'm not a criminal, I want to do what I can...but it seems as if the CA courts are dead set against me.
Andto top it all off, My ex refused to allow me visitation during the whole time period...so now my child doesn;t even know me...
Any help would be appreciated.
In 1998 My then wife and I divorced. She fled to California with our baby daughter after sheran up massive debt. I was left with said debt and all the bills. No big deal...I tried to pay them off. After 2 months, I went out to try to work out our problems. The reconcilliation didn't work....I went back to Okalhoma to find a divorce decree waiting on me. Before the decree was final, I lost my job. The courst then enacted a 500 dollar a month Child support arrangement in my absence, I didn;t have the money to go to california on the courst whim. I did go out for a child custody hearing, but it was cancelled when the mother didn't show up.
So needless to say, I was in a financial bind...I could make the payments because I was out of work...CAlifornia and Oklahoma Living standards are much different, that 500 dollar payment ended up being once I was employed again almost 75% of my take home pay...I couldn't make the payment...I didn;t have the moneyu to go to california to challenge the order...I was caught...I can hear the Ex giggling in glee.
In 2001, I finally got a job that allowed me to start making payments again. I made payments from MArch 2001 to present. But in that time frame My back child support plus intrest blossomed to 18K...NOw I'm trying to figure out how to pay this amount off.
I want to pay what is mine, But someohow, I don;t feel I was treated fairly by the california courts...do I have any recourse in regards to the arrears? I'm not a criminal, I want to do what I can...but it seems as if the CA courts are dead set against me.
Andto top it all off, My ex refused to allow me visitation during the whole time period...so now my child doesn;t even know me...
Any help would be appreciated.