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What is the name of your state? CA
HI, this is my situation:
I"m a 28 year old male living in socal. My ex is 25 living in norcal.
me and my ex are not married
we lived together for 6 months before we broke up
3 months ago we found out she was pregnant.
She is bipolar and after she found out she was pregnant stopped taking medication. (due to defect concerns in the childtobe)
this caused her to be very abusive and it ended with us having to call it quits for the time being as she was depressed and wanted to see her daughter.
ended up she has made it permanent since( i knew long distance relationships dont' work)
she moved back up north where she is now. That's where her family is and her daughter who has been living with her own parents for the last year.
She has since stated that she is not going to put the child up for adoption. which should be in the best interest of the child due to the following:
FIRST HER:
She has no job, no insurance for herself or her child, no funds, no bank account, no house, 800$ car with 200k miles, no support system from her own parents who have kicked her daughter out after they found out she was pregnant and possibly going to jail. possibly going to jail for 2 burglary charges for a year or less(first offense), in debt and has debt collectors sending her mail. One more important detail. (the bipolar issue, it makes her very unpredicatable and always looking for a high and bright light, which is what caused her to be caught stealing(rush of stealing , skydiving, doing something against the law, meeting new people; helps bipolars get over their depression) It is also genetic, as her grandma and possibly her mother and child might have it too. So this might be handed down once again.
ME:
a student, and studying real estate, have car and health insurance, independent but being taken care of by my parents 100%(allowance), (through living in parents second house, i have a car(jointlyowed as i've payed back 20,000 to them for buying it), in debt myself now(12k), wasn't in any debt before i met her nor did i have any credit cards. I know noone can make me sign anything but i guess i didn't realize what i was getting into gettin 3 cc's. i'm not in any criminal trouble nor have i been, and im current with my bills.But i might go bankrupt soon due to the heavy spending i incurred with her. She put her ex in debt too(he lost his house), when she spent 4000$ and caused the mortgage payments to go unpaid she ran away and hasn't seen him since.
Now since it takes 2 people to put the child up for adoption;i realize that it doens't matter that i think that's the right thing to do. So if she decides to keep this child, who will win in a court decision for custody.
CAnt' the state step in and put the child up for adoption themselves or have it put up for foster care.
And if i win sole custody can i put the child up for adoption then. ...ask me fore more details i'm sure i have them... ...thanks for any help
HI, this is my situation:
I"m a 28 year old male living in socal. My ex is 25 living in norcal.
me and my ex are not married
we lived together for 6 months before we broke up
3 months ago we found out she was pregnant.
She is bipolar and after she found out she was pregnant stopped taking medication. (due to defect concerns in the childtobe)
this caused her to be very abusive and it ended with us having to call it quits for the time being as she was depressed and wanted to see her daughter.
ended up she has made it permanent since( i knew long distance relationships dont' work)
she moved back up north where she is now. That's where her family is and her daughter who has been living with her own parents for the last year.
She has since stated that she is not going to put the child up for adoption. which should be in the best interest of the child due to the following:
FIRST HER:
She has no job, no insurance for herself or her child, no funds, no bank account, no house, 800$ car with 200k miles, no support system from her own parents who have kicked her daughter out after they found out she was pregnant and possibly going to jail. possibly going to jail for 2 burglary charges for a year or less(first offense), in debt and has debt collectors sending her mail. One more important detail. (the bipolar issue, it makes her very unpredicatable and always looking for a high and bright light, which is what caused her to be caught stealing(rush of stealing , skydiving, doing something against the law, meeting new people; helps bipolars get over their depression) It is also genetic, as her grandma and possibly her mother and child might have it too. So this might be handed down once again.
ME:
a student, and studying real estate, have car and health insurance, independent but being taken care of by my parents 100%(allowance), (through living in parents second house, i have a car(jointlyowed as i've payed back 20,000 to them for buying it), in debt myself now(12k), wasn't in any debt before i met her nor did i have any credit cards. I know noone can make me sign anything but i guess i didn't realize what i was getting into gettin 3 cc's. i'm not in any criminal trouble nor have i been, and im current with my bills.But i might go bankrupt soon due to the heavy spending i incurred with her. She put her ex in debt too(he lost his house), when she spent 4000$ and caused the mortgage payments to go unpaid she ran away and hasn't seen him since.
Now since it takes 2 people to put the child up for adoption;i realize that it doens't matter that i think that's the right thing to do. So if she decides to keep this child, who will win in a court decision for custody.
CAnt' the state step in and put the child up for adoption themselves or have it put up for foster care.
And if i win sole custody can i put the child up for adoption then. ...ask me fore more details i'm sure i have them... ...thanks for any help