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cecilio
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What is the name of your state? new york
Ok here’s my story.
I’m 32 years young (thank you) for the last 10 years I’ve been in a relationship with a woman whom I didn’t really love anyway I stayed and we’ve lived together for the past 9 years we have an 8 years old son who is latterly my life every single thing I’ve done over the past 9 years has pretty much been for him…
Now this past February I’ve pretty much had my full of mom and moved out into a small apt a friend arranged for me since then I was talked into trying to work things out again
And just couldn’t pull it off… over the years our main quarl has been cash I’ve never been able to count on her to share the load at all in any way so I left and with me went 25grand of back bills (fun fun fun)…
So anyway three weeks ago she came to me b/c she couldn’t make the $1300 auto insurance payment and the policy was going to laps so I paid the 1000 she didn’t have. This caused me to fall behind 15 days on my rent (I’m still not happy about that)
Then she came to me 4 days later b/c she needed to pay his school the 600 she still owed them or he would not be getting his report card. When I told her NO! I didn’t have it she then went and ran into family court and filled for child support and had me served later that night.
Ok so right now I’m not sure what to do when I moved I lost most of the paperwork I had
I’ve contacted my back and they are sending me a copy of my records for the last 3 years and I’ve also gotten a letter from my employer stating my annual salary for the past 3 years…
I’m just really scarred about all of this b/c I’ve heard so many horror stories from everyone I know
I’m not against paying child support of anything but for her to sit there and smile at me
With that grin on her face b/c she knows I’m screwed and she’s gotten the last laugh
Now with my court date 5 day’s way and the way her and her family have been acting
I’m feeling the need to get partial legal custody ASAP just to avoid any future problems
With them she says that she has no problem with it but I’ve also heard so many different stories form so many of our friends
And as it is now I need to find a part time job just to afford my apt, bills, and the money i've already been giving her
I don’t have any money so getting a lawyer
Is out of the question at least for now
What should I do?
I just got done looking at all the forms the require me to fill out again
and i'm wondering if they ask the same of her. Does she have to fill out the same paper work i do????
if so how do they calculate it all into the final figure
example
I now live by myself and make 35,000 a year and pay 850 rent
she lives with her family in a private house make around 27,000 and pays no rent
Ok here’s my story.
I’m 32 years young (thank you) for the last 10 years I’ve been in a relationship with a woman whom I didn’t really love anyway I stayed and we’ve lived together for the past 9 years we have an 8 years old son who is latterly my life every single thing I’ve done over the past 9 years has pretty much been for him…
Now this past February I’ve pretty much had my full of mom and moved out into a small apt a friend arranged for me since then I was talked into trying to work things out again
And just couldn’t pull it off… over the years our main quarl has been cash I’ve never been able to count on her to share the load at all in any way so I left and with me went 25grand of back bills (fun fun fun)…
So anyway three weeks ago she came to me b/c she couldn’t make the $1300 auto insurance payment and the policy was going to laps so I paid the 1000 she didn’t have. This caused me to fall behind 15 days on my rent (I’m still not happy about that)
Then she came to me 4 days later b/c she needed to pay his school the 600 she still owed them or he would not be getting his report card. When I told her NO! I didn’t have it she then went and ran into family court and filled for child support and had me served later that night.
Ok so right now I’m not sure what to do when I moved I lost most of the paperwork I had
I’ve contacted my back and they are sending me a copy of my records for the last 3 years and I’ve also gotten a letter from my employer stating my annual salary for the past 3 years…
I’m just really scarred about all of this b/c I’ve heard so many horror stories from everyone I know
I’m not against paying child support of anything but for her to sit there and smile at me
With that grin on her face b/c she knows I’m screwed and she’s gotten the last laugh
Now with my court date 5 day’s way and the way her and her family have been acting
I’m feeling the need to get partial legal custody ASAP just to avoid any future problems
With them she says that she has no problem with it but I’ve also heard so many different stories form so many of our friends
And as it is now I need to find a part time job just to afford my apt, bills, and the money i've already been giving her
I don’t have any money so getting a lawyer
Is out of the question at least for now
What should I do?
I just got done looking at all the forms the require me to fill out again
and i'm wondering if they ask the same of her. Does she have to fill out the same paper work i do????
if so how do they calculate it all into the final figure
example
I now live by myself and make 35,000 a year and pay 850 rent
she lives with her family in a private house make around 27,000 and pays no rent
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