In court, my ex had to show that there had been significant change in the current custody arrangement. She represented herself, and had about 15 witnesses. Some of the witnesses stated how SHE had changed, others stated that we both had been involved in their lives. An ex-boyfriend stated that when he came to pick them up once they were unbathed and the girls complained that we didn't have any hot water. We had one witness, my ten year olds therapist, who stated that it was obvious that mom was talking to his client about everything that was going on in court. He also mentioned how the ex had mentioned that when asked how she thought the girls were being abused, she said "I know they aren't being abused, but my attorney (before she fired her) needed an excuse to get the case back to court." Also how during one visit, how mom had taken the girls to the police station to tell the police that they were afraid of me, and how damaging all this was. The ex even had the girls on her witness list, and told the court that the girls were prepared to testify as to their mothers positive parenting skills. Even after the GAL and the therapist told of the damage it was doing, the judge wanted to talk to the girls AGAIN.
Interestingly enough, the girls had all along multiple interviewers that they wanted to live with their mother. When the judge interviewed them, they said it was up to him.
My atttorney showed me a statute, and reminded the judge that if the court finds that the charges were false, the the party bringing the false charges into court is responsible for the other parties legal fees. Although my attorney told me not to expect to get attorneys fee, which I find disturbing. I'm still waiting on the paperwork as to the outcome, (so I can refresh my mind/and see it in writing). In summary, NO significant change.
In parting, document everything, be there for your kids, because they'll eventually figure out which parent really was looking out for them, keep a few valium around for those really stressful court appearances. Also remember that one day your children will be deciding whether to put you in a nice nursing home, or a stinky run down nursing home. And NEVER GIVE UP!.... Keith
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Keith Jenson