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Bella21
Guest
In California:
I need some advice on dealing with some pretty stinky problems... I'd been engaged to my ex for about 1 1/2 years. The relationship lasted for about 3 years total. About six months ago, I ended the relationship when the police came to his apartment and found somewhere between 1-3 oz of pot on him. By this time the relationship had headed south and I was looking for a way to end it... which I did immediately!
His response to that was:
Grab me after my last class that same night, pretend to leave when I told him to go, but end up jumping into my passenger seat. Refusing to leave for several minutes. Then, later that night, invent a fake suicide attempt which landed him in the hospital overnight. From that first day on, he has been stalking and harrassing myself and my family. Since the further harrassment had only been over the phone, I didn't file for a restraining order (also demotivated due to a overwhelming school schedule). Now, it's summer break... he had attempted to get me after class recently, but I was helped my a classmate (I have her #).
After one month, is it too late for the order? I can't afford $300 for one.
Also, I have a signed note from him promising to pay back $1,800 cash that I had lent him. However, it's not dated! The note says, in his handwritting, that he will pay me back or I "can take him to court and sue the **** out of him". Well, that looks like it needs to happen... however, I have check recipts that show thousands of dollars that I had lent him over the past couple years (I had even marked them "[his name] loan") for his various bills. He now claims (i have this on my voicemail) that he will deny that he wrote it, I also have his messages stating that he "will pay me back", "won't pay me back", yadda yadda, this ongoing game-playing has been the main reason I hadn't gotten the order and why I haven't taken him to court for his money yet... what are the chances he can pull that? I had put my name on his apt. lease since he didn't have good credit at the time. He had told me a year ago that he had it taken off... I had believed him, but he was lying. He says that I can't get my money back because the bills were also mine since my name was on the lease too. Can he DO that? I can get various testimonies from his neigbors and apt. managers/owners that I WASNT living there.
He's been taken under his grandmother's wing with his pot charges... should I write her a letter offering her a settlement offer for this money before finishing the court paperwork? Should I attempt to regain the $7-8,000 I've lent him over the past 2 years, or should I only try for the $1,800?
I need some advice on dealing with some pretty stinky problems... I'd been engaged to my ex for about 1 1/2 years. The relationship lasted for about 3 years total. About six months ago, I ended the relationship when the police came to his apartment and found somewhere between 1-3 oz of pot on him. By this time the relationship had headed south and I was looking for a way to end it... which I did immediately!
His response to that was:
Grab me after my last class that same night, pretend to leave when I told him to go, but end up jumping into my passenger seat. Refusing to leave for several minutes. Then, later that night, invent a fake suicide attempt which landed him in the hospital overnight. From that first day on, he has been stalking and harrassing myself and my family. Since the further harrassment had only been over the phone, I didn't file for a restraining order (also demotivated due to a overwhelming school schedule). Now, it's summer break... he had attempted to get me after class recently, but I was helped my a classmate (I have her #).
After one month, is it too late for the order? I can't afford $300 for one.
Also, I have a signed note from him promising to pay back $1,800 cash that I had lent him. However, it's not dated! The note says, in his handwritting, that he will pay me back or I "can take him to court and sue the **** out of him". Well, that looks like it needs to happen... however, I have check recipts that show thousands of dollars that I had lent him over the past couple years (I had even marked them "[his name] loan") for his various bills. He now claims (i have this on my voicemail) that he will deny that he wrote it, I also have his messages stating that he "will pay me back", "won't pay me back", yadda yadda, this ongoing game-playing has been the main reason I hadn't gotten the order and why I haven't taken him to court for his money yet... what are the chances he can pull that? I had put my name on his apt. lease since he didn't have good credit at the time. He had told me a year ago that he had it taken off... I had believed him, but he was lying. He says that I can't get my money back because the bills were also mine since my name was on the lease too. Can he DO that? I can get various testimonies from his neigbors and apt. managers/owners that I WASNT living there.
He's been taken under his grandmother's wing with his pot charges... should I write her a letter offering her a settlement offer for this money before finishing the court paperwork? Should I attempt to regain the $7-8,000 I've lent him over the past 2 years, or should I only try for the $1,800?