nextwife,
MIL is in her 50's and has limited mobility.
Just a tough, tough situation for newlyweds to deal with. I am kind of independant person who would agree with a situation such as the one you describe for an elderly parent or in-law but looking at one with a situation that would mean having a live in for an entire marriage is why this is such a difficult scenario.
truly, As I said, I don't really know what is normal anymore. I do know that it feels at times like I am married but alone. At any given moment when we are together, a phone call from family comes in. It seems to me to be about working with a spouse to let go a little. And, more importantly, the spouses family. What is so interesting to watch the family members who are married and how their spouses handle it. When we are visiting, I do notice that their spouses do not come around and in some way, while everyone in the family is disappointed, I kind of understand why? It's just something that has to work itself out.
I started with my original question just fearful that it would be forced on me without any compromise on my wife's part and that if that turned out to be the case, if there was anything I could do about it if I could not adjust. I am not looking to be divorced, just hoping that if it did reach the scenario of people just moving in, I would have something to bring up that would allow my spouse to understand the serousness of the situation.
thanks