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StacyInCT
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I am divorced with one child. This post is regarding visitation.
Last year my ex husband had our daughter overnights on Wednesdays (he took her to school on Thursdays) and Saturday night til Sunday afternoon. On occasion, each of us had conflicts with our schedules (such as working late or wanting to take a vacation) but always managed to work it out quite agreeably.
I moved one hour away this past June when I remarried. We still kept the same schedule this summer, meeting at a half way point for drop off and pick up with our daughter.
In July my ex asked me to change his visitation to every other weekend (Friday night til Sunday night) and still keep the Wednesdays nights til Thursday mornings. I agreed, even though I didn't want to.
Since school started in August, this overnight on Wednesdays isn't working. Invariably one of us is late because of a traffic jam or road construction, and that in turn makes my daughter late for school. We have started meeting a half hour earlier, but my daughter seems tired from lack of sleep. She doesn't always finish her homework either when at his house either. Quite frankly I think that a 7 year old needs a routine.
Last week, I told my ex that this schedule was not working. As a compromise, I offered to have him come here to our new home and take her out to dinner, to a sport lesson. Or do whatever he wants. I just need her home and in bed by 8pm. (She's always needed a lot of sleep) I know it's extra driving for him, but I think it's in the best interest of our daughter. I even told him he can take her for more time when she has school holidays. I told him he could come over here two nights a week if he wanted. I have asked him for his input and told him I was willing to agree to a reasonable suggestion, but he's stubborn and wants things to stay the way they are.
I know it's inconvenient for him to have to travel extra time. But my feeling is better him then our daughter.
He is demanding that I be there tomorrow. I really don't know what to do. I want my daughter to see him, but she needs to have a normal schedule.
I have Sole Custody and the Visitation part of the Divorce Decree is vague and only reads, "Visitation as the Parties Agree". I don't want to do anything illegal---is a verbal agreement (the Wednesday nights)that's been in effect for over a year valid or binding? Do I go to court to change visitation or does he if he's unhappy with my suggestion? Can he come over here and take her to his house even though I've said no?
The divorce took place in NY and I now live in CT.
Please, please, if anyone has any suggestions!!!!!
Last year my ex husband had our daughter overnights on Wednesdays (he took her to school on Thursdays) and Saturday night til Sunday afternoon. On occasion, each of us had conflicts with our schedules (such as working late or wanting to take a vacation) but always managed to work it out quite agreeably.
I moved one hour away this past June when I remarried. We still kept the same schedule this summer, meeting at a half way point for drop off and pick up with our daughter.
In July my ex asked me to change his visitation to every other weekend (Friday night til Sunday night) and still keep the Wednesdays nights til Thursday mornings. I agreed, even though I didn't want to.
Since school started in August, this overnight on Wednesdays isn't working. Invariably one of us is late because of a traffic jam or road construction, and that in turn makes my daughter late for school. We have started meeting a half hour earlier, but my daughter seems tired from lack of sleep. She doesn't always finish her homework either when at his house either. Quite frankly I think that a 7 year old needs a routine.
Last week, I told my ex that this schedule was not working. As a compromise, I offered to have him come here to our new home and take her out to dinner, to a sport lesson. Or do whatever he wants. I just need her home and in bed by 8pm. (She's always needed a lot of sleep) I know it's extra driving for him, but I think it's in the best interest of our daughter. I even told him he can take her for more time when she has school holidays. I told him he could come over here two nights a week if he wanted. I have asked him for his input and told him I was willing to agree to a reasonable suggestion, but he's stubborn and wants things to stay the way they are.
I know it's inconvenient for him to have to travel extra time. But my feeling is better him then our daughter.
He is demanding that I be there tomorrow. I really don't know what to do. I want my daughter to see him, but she needs to have a normal schedule.
I have Sole Custody and the Visitation part of the Divorce Decree is vague and only reads, "Visitation as the Parties Agree". I don't want to do anything illegal---is a verbal agreement (the Wednesday nights)that's been in effect for over a year valid or binding? Do I go to court to change visitation or does he if he's unhappy with my suggestion? Can he come over here and take her to his house even though I've said no?
The divorce took place in NY and I now live in CT.
Please, please, if anyone has any suggestions!!!!!