Dual military, adultery, w/minor children

What is the name of your state? Virginia

My husband and I are both Captains in the Air Force. We have twin 16 month old boys. He had unprotected sex w/ several women while deployed in Germany (120 days) came home and gave me an STD. Also, I found out this was not his first inappropriate conduct. I ordered credit card statements that show has been paying for internet porn, friend finding services, escort services... I offered him a separation agreement but he refused to sign b/c he says the child support payment is too high. I did not want to file for a divorce initially because it is so expensive but now I feel I have no choice. He is so unremorseful about the whole thing. Should I turn him into the JAG? Also, our marriage counselor said he has a sexual addiction.

My ex is an air force officer. My advice comes from experience. The first person you need to talk to is his commanding officer. If he has a good relationship with his commanding officer don't expect much support there. If the CO has any character though he will respond to your problems in the appropriate way.

Go to the JAG office and ask them what your rights are as far as the military if it comes to separation. MOST IMPORTANTLY, contact a civilian attorney who specializes in military divorce.

Divorce is a civil issue and the Air Force will not become too involved in it. The adultry issue is kind of iffy. It's really up to the descretion of the CO. If he feels your husband actions warrant discipline then it is in his capacity to do so. My ex husband's CO told me he did care what the man did as long as he came to work and did his job. Hopefully you won't get the same reaction.

If the CO doesn't listen or seem to care go to the base Commander General. The Inspector General is also someone who can give you info on what you should or could do about the situation.

Get online and do research into military divorce. The benefits are different, there is more at stake than your average civil divorce and it's very important that you arm yourself with knowledge. I wish you well!
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