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Fancyfire
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When my stepdaughter was 4, her mom and dad divorced. Dad got temporary total custody after sexual abuse was suspected from moms boyfriend. Mom repeatedly broke court order to keep child away from the man but....Dad gave her another chance and split custody 50/50 with her. And I mean 50/50. Dad had her one week, mom the next. Dad also agreed to pay child support cause he just wanted to take care of his child. After a few months mom took off with new husband and went on the road, abadoning 4 year old. Whenever she would show up and call, Dad would take child to her and go get her. He listened to childs sobbing at night for mom, wiped away her tears and just kept telling her mom loved her. He never once asked mom for child support, he alone took care of his daughter and jumped every time mom came back to town and demanded to see the child. In two years she saw her a total of 76 days. Every once in a while she would come back, state she was off the road and staying. Wanted child support and oh yeah, wanted the child for her every other week. After about 2 to 3 weeks she would take off again without a word to anyone leaving a devistated child behind. Then in Feburary of this year mom comes back and once again states she is off road, I guess her one year old was just too much to handle out on the road all the time (POOR KID). Well to give mom credit she has stayed home all this time. Anyway, she made two requests in this order. MONEY and the child. Because he wanted his daughter to be happy, dad let her go to mom for the summer for trial basis to see how things went and if her severe emotional problems got any better. (Like wetting her pants, compulsive lying, manipulating, and violence....child 7 now). He told the mom IF things went ok and child was going to stay there THEN he would start paying child support well....mom didnt like that so she went to child support services to enforce payment from DEAD BEAT DAD, telling them she had total custody of child and he refused to pay child support (even though we have given her groceries and he has given her money) also telling them child has no medical insurance which she does have. She is also signing his name at doctores offices claiming the child lives with him and he is responsible for all medical bills.
I AM OUTRAGED as a women, a mother of 2 and a christian. I myself truly feel sorry for this mom and have stood along side my husband in doing everything we could to keep all doors open for her to return and have a relationship with her child. I do not understand how a mother could abandon her baby like that for over 2 years. I still wait everyday for her to leave again and I shudder to think what it will do to that little girl if her mom abandons her again. Ok I am venting here...sorry. Anyway, it seems all government agencies are on her side and see the dad as being an absent, dead beat dad because he isnt paying full child support. I have been told by everyone I have talked to that normally when there is joint custody with whoever has the child at the time being primary custodian then there is no child support....does anyone know anything about that?
It is my understanding dad offered support for 2 reasons. He wanted to take care of his child and....it was the only way mom would agree to sign papers which she admitted in them to breaking court order and can not take child out of county without dads permission and isnt allowed to have a male overnight (excpet her husband of course) in order to show child relationship should exist only in marriage.
Anyone have any thoughts idead or suggestions on this situation. Oh by the way, mom and stepdad are under an investigation by child protective services in a possible abuse by the stepdad.
The only reason child is still there is in not wanting to cause her anymore emotional probelms. If she isnt with her mom she thinks mom is leaving again.
I AM OUTRAGED as a women, a mother of 2 and a christian. I myself truly feel sorry for this mom and have stood along side my husband in doing everything we could to keep all doors open for her to return and have a relationship with her child. I do not understand how a mother could abandon her baby like that for over 2 years. I still wait everyday for her to leave again and I shudder to think what it will do to that little girl if her mom abandons her again. Ok I am venting here...sorry. Anyway, it seems all government agencies are on her side and see the dad as being an absent, dead beat dad because he isnt paying full child support. I have been told by everyone I have talked to that normally when there is joint custody with whoever has the child at the time being primary custodian then there is no child support....does anyone know anything about that?
It is my understanding dad offered support for 2 reasons. He wanted to take care of his child and....it was the only way mom would agree to sign papers which she admitted in them to breaking court order and can not take child out of county without dads permission and isnt allowed to have a male overnight (excpet her husband of course) in order to show child relationship should exist only in marriage.
Anyone have any thoughts idead or suggestions on this situation. Oh by the way, mom and stepdad are under an investigation by child protective services in a possible abuse by the stepdad.
The only reason child is still there is in not wanting to cause her anymore emotional probelms. If she isnt with her mom she thinks mom is leaving again.