The state is New York. I have been mulling over how to ask this question but I just decided to spit it out, because there is no easy way.
I found out my stepdaughter is sexually active last week. She is 13 yrs old. Her mother has complained time and again over this child's rebellion. My stepdaughter has been notorious for either lying about staying at her friend's house, or staying out way past her curfew (to the tune of 4 a.m.). The mother is more interested in her life, and basically leaves my SD unattended, and gives her rules, which she knows my SD doesn't abide by, and there's no consequences for the actions of my SD, only threats to her and complaints to me and my husband. She tries to deny visitation with us as her punishment.
I found out this new info completely by accident...I walked into her bedroom at our house, and she had placed a box of condoms on the bed beside her, and I walked in...she tried to hide them but it was too late. I tried my best to remain calm and talk to her about it. She has had sex 4 times (3 different boys) she told me. She was crying, telling me that each one has broken up with her not long after. Is there any legal way to prove that this child is poorly supervised (and poorly guided in her life) and what, if anything, can be done legally here? I know that 13 is an age where if the child is left alone, it is not considered neglect. However, her mother leaves her all the time. Especially now, her mother is between boyfriends, and when she's not working, she's on the manhunt at clubs nightly. We are so worried about my SD, but we don't know if there is any legal way to try to intervene or will we just have to wait until this child winds up with a child or an STD? Thanks in advance.
P.S. My husband knows about the poor supervision, but not about the sexual activity yet. I truthfully am a little scared to tell him because I don't know how he will handle knowing this. Any pointers on that would be appreciated too. Thanks again - Jen
[This message has been edited by Jenifa (edited September 21, 2000).]
I found out my stepdaughter is sexually active last week. She is 13 yrs old. Her mother has complained time and again over this child's rebellion. My stepdaughter has been notorious for either lying about staying at her friend's house, or staying out way past her curfew (to the tune of 4 a.m.). The mother is more interested in her life, and basically leaves my SD unattended, and gives her rules, which she knows my SD doesn't abide by, and there's no consequences for the actions of my SD, only threats to her and complaints to me and my husband. She tries to deny visitation with us as her punishment.
I found out this new info completely by accident...I walked into her bedroom at our house, and she had placed a box of condoms on the bed beside her, and I walked in...she tried to hide them but it was too late. I tried my best to remain calm and talk to her about it. She has had sex 4 times (3 different boys) she told me. She was crying, telling me that each one has broken up with her not long after. Is there any legal way to prove that this child is poorly supervised (and poorly guided in her life) and what, if anything, can be done legally here? I know that 13 is an age where if the child is left alone, it is not considered neglect. However, her mother leaves her all the time. Especially now, her mother is between boyfriends, and when she's not working, she's on the manhunt at clubs nightly. We are so worried about my SD, but we don't know if there is any legal way to try to intervene or will we just have to wait until this child winds up with a child or an STD? Thanks in advance.
P.S. My husband knows about the poor supervision, but not about the sexual activity yet. I truthfully am a little scared to tell him because I don't know how he will handle knowing this. Any pointers on that would be appreciated too. Thanks again - Jen
[This message has been edited by Jenifa (edited September 21, 2000).]