In my opinion, I would have as much contact with the child as possible, and make a visiation plan that the mother has to adhere to if she doesn't, then she could lose custody. Don't stop paying support just because you don't see your child- that is wrong! But it sounds like the father is a bit lackadaisical in going to court, he needs to find out his own information rather that waiting and blaming problems on others. It is His child, his case, his situation to resolve and an attorney could care less unless he's receiving money. The father needs to take matters in his own hands, unless he doesn't want to have a relationship with the child, then he should contact the mother and let her know he wants to relinquish his parental rights. A child has the right to know both parents, and if the child wants to see the other parent it should be acknowledged. H eshould start with talking to a reputable attorney and looking up his Family Codes for both CA and Arizona.