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Frustrated mom
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My 16yo son has been in trouble twice w/law,
but had alternative sentencing program so
cases were closed after successful completion
of the program. But..he has dropped out of
school, enrolled in night school, but won't
attend. Won't work. Just sleeps, eats, hangs
out with friends. Mostly refuses to do any
chores or help at home. If I push him or say
NO to something, he loses his temper promptly
& cusses me. Have had a couple of very near
violent arguments. He has just barely restrained himself from hitting me. He uses
very bad language, listens to filthy music.
I also have two younger children who see &
hear the way he talks to me, and how he acts.
I feel that I should do something, but I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm doing him any favors in allowing this situation to continue like this. But I am so
afaid to become involved with the courts.
Because I don't have much faith that there
would any programs that might help him.
Foster homes? Group homes? What? He won't
follow any rules of our home, but if we tell
him to leave because he won't follow our rules, then we're liable for whatever damage
he might do like car accidents, thefts, etc.,
aren't we? If I do turn to courts, what would be the first step? Can anyone offer
advice? I love him so much, but I can't keep
living like this, & I can't keep letting my
younger children see him getting away with
being a disrespectful, lazy bum. Please help
Thank you.
but had alternative sentencing program so
cases were closed after successful completion
of the program. But..he has dropped out of
school, enrolled in night school, but won't
attend. Won't work. Just sleeps, eats, hangs
out with friends. Mostly refuses to do any
chores or help at home. If I push him or say
NO to something, he loses his temper promptly
& cusses me. Have had a couple of very near
violent arguments. He has just barely restrained himself from hitting me. He uses
very bad language, listens to filthy music.
I also have two younger children who see &
hear the way he talks to me, and how he acts.
I feel that I should do something, but I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm doing him any favors in allowing this situation to continue like this. But I am so
afaid to become involved with the courts.
Because I don't have much faith that there
would any programs that might help him.
Foster homes? Group homes? What? He won't
follow any rules of our home, but if we tell
him to leave because he won't follow our rules, then we're liable for whatever damage
he might do like car accidents, thefts, etc.,
aren't we? If I do turn to courts, what would be the first step? Can anyone offer
advice? I love him so much, but I can't keep
living like this, & I can't keep letting my
younger children see him getting away with
being a disrespectful, lazy bum. Please help
Thank you.