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BMR in VA
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As brief as I can, I have had sole custody of child since birth (6 yrs now). Married for 4 months to abusive ex. Five years with present husband. Awarded custody in VA but lived mostly in FL w/child. Ex never got over my leaving him and has threatened and harassed me for 6 yrs now for spuring his advances. Since returning to VA for present husband's employment (agreed to 2 yrs, even though returning to VA made me sick to my stomach). I initiated contact w/bio dad and son since I thought it would be healthy for son to know bio dad's family. When he started coming home in state of neglect, I tried for almost a year to confront bio dad on this, only resulting in the spewing of vulgarities by him and more threats.SS didn't see it as a "priority case" and didn't step in, so pediatrician gave advice on how to treat problems since no one could stop the neglect. After the last threat,I did what local authorities instructed-protective order, ammend reasonable visitation-it blew up. I couldn't communicate with bio or his family for 6 months because they would only intimidate and threaten when I would try to arrange visits, then we went to court and the judge wouldn't listen to me AT ALL, practically handed my child over to the bio on a platter (2 weekends per month, thanksgiving AND christmas???) calling me a hysterical, overprotective mother (I hadn't even shed a tear or spoken a word yet) because my attorney asked to "terminate visitation". Now bio is filing to take my baby away (full custody) saying I "alienated" him? What kind of mother would I be if I handed my child over to a man I was accusing of neglect as he was continuing to threaten and harass me? And he never wanted him in the first place (not that my child will EVER hear that) I felt I was doing the best I could to protect him. Now I am told I was wrong? We have provided the best of everything for my child (and bio is over $3K in arrears) and provide a nice,desirable,loving,stable home. I believe bio is doing this to stop us from moving home (FL) before our family starts dying off and to keep me close to him now that I am here. Please tell me that he can't REALLY take my baby. I am a stay-at-home mother, my child is my life, it's all I know how to do. I cannot breathe.