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mizzz2u
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What is the name of your state? NY
I walked in on my son (14) and an 8 yr old with their pants down. After questioning both boys there was only touching involved. However, the younger said my son touched him but he didn't touch my son. When I talked to my son I told him he better be honest with me because the other boy already spilled his guts. He told me pretty much the same story...except that the touching went both ways. Regardless, my son is older and should have not done this.
I have told the mother of the other child, and we actually questioned him together. I am the only one that has talked to my son. He is still a kid and I know kids lie to cover their butts. But, if he was covering his butt, why would he say that the touching was both ways. Also, he has told me that the child asked to play this "game" and the other child is the one that taught him how to play it. It is called the "boyfriend girlfriend game."
After not believing my own son at first, I have now asked him so many questions and seen his reaction to them. I am sure he isn't lying to me. He doesn't change his body language, his tone of voice, his face NOTHING. He just looks sad while this topic is being discussed. As well he should.
I guess my question is, at 14 can he be charged as an adult? And with the little bit of background I have given, would countercharges even be a slight option?
They want to interview me first, not my son. This I don't get. Leading to my other question. Should I have a lawyer with me during this interview? and he will get a law guardian...but when can he have one. Do they have to press charges first? No charges have been set yet...all I have heard is something about sexual abuse.
Help if you can.
Scared and shaking
I walked in on my son (14) and an 8 yr old with their pants down. After questioning both boys there was only touching involved. However, the younger said my son touched him but he didn't touch my son. When I talked to my son I told him he better be honest with me because the other boy already spilled his guts. He told me pretty much the same story...except that the touching went both ways. Regardless, my son is older and should have not done this.
I have told the mother of the other child, and we actually questioned him together. I am the only one that has talked to my son. He is still a kid and I know kids lie to cover their butts. But, if he was covering his butt, why would he say that the touching was both ways. Also, he has told me that the child asked to play this "game" and the other child is the one that taught him how to play it. It is called the "boyfriend girlfriend game."
After not believing my own son at first, I have now asked him so many questions and seen his reaction to them. I am sure he isn't lying to me. He doesn't change his body language, his tone of voice, his face NOTHING. He just looks sad while this topic is being discussed. As well he should.
I guess my question is, at 14 can he be charged as an adult? And with the little bit of background I have given, would countercharges even be a slight option?
They want to interview me first, not my son. This I don't get. Leading to my other question. Should I have a lawyer with me during this interview? and he will get a law guardian...but when can he have one. Do they have to press charges first? No charges have been set yet...all I have heard is something about sexual abuse.
Help if you can.
Scared and shaking