What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Florida
My husband and I have resolved everything except one financial divorce issue. I thought this issue had been resolved early in the divorce process because he had offered me 45% of his pension, and I had accepted. Now, he says he made a mistake in the way he figured things and using the correct method, my actual share would be reduced to approximately 34%. If I agree to what he wants, I will lose approximately $200. in monthly income and over a projected remaining life span of approximately 20 years (we are both 58), he stands to gain $36,000 plus any COLAs. I have offered a number of compromises (including offering to split the difference and accept $100 more a month instead of the previously agreed on $200) and he has rejected all of them, saying that for this amount of money that he stands to lose, it's worth the expense of a trial if necessary. Our attorneys have pretty much been letting us try to negotiate this last issue. Things are tight financially for me and I don't look forward to the expense of a trial for just one thing. My husband's attorney had decided to drop him as a client just a few weeks ago and somehow he talked her into keeping him as a client. He told me that she said SHE made a mistake in ordering a hearing to dismiss him as a client (I doubt that, knowing how difficult he is to reason with). We have a long term marriage of over 30 years. We do have another mediation set for December, but I know he's going for all or nothing. I have even told him that if he remains unwilling to compromise and insists on a trial, I'll seek reimbursement for attorney/legal fees. Because we are currently splitting his salary 50/50 (I don't work because of health issues). He says because of this, judgment on legal fees would also be ordered 50/50. I think he resents having had to compromise at all in any way throughout this whole process and he's determined to go full steam ahead on this final issue. If we end up at trial, can I use information about a significant personal inheritance he had during our marriage that he told me he didn't intend to share with me and put all the proceeds into a personal account to protect them? Can you think of anything that could be said to him that may convince him to settle rather than go to court? He's definitely a person who avoids confrontation at all costs, so I don't understand why he's not looking to avoid a trial.
Thanks.
My husband and I have resolved everything except one financial divorce issue. I thought this issue had been resolved early in the divorce process because he had offered me 45% of his pension, and I had accepted. Now, he says he made a mistake in the way he figured things and using the correct method, my actual share would be reduced to approximately 34%. If I agree to what he wants, I will lose approximately $200. in monthly income and over a projected remaining life span of approximately 20 years (we are both 58), he stands to gain $36,000 plus any COLAs. I have offered a number of compromises (including offering to split the difference and accept $100 more a month instead of the previously agreed on $200) and he has rejected all of them, saying that for this amount of money that he stands to lose, it's worth the expense of a trial if necessary. Our attorneys have pretty much been letting us try to negotiate this last issue. Things are tight financially for me and I don't look forward to the expense of a trial for just one thing. My husband's attorney had decided to drop him as a client just a few weeks ago and somehow he talked her into keeping him as a client. He told me that she said SHE made a mistake in ordering a hearing to dismiss him as a client (I doubt that, knowing how difficult he is to reason with). We have a long term marriage of over 30 years. We do have another mediation set for December, but I know he's going for all or nothing. I have even told him that if he remains unwilling to compromise and insists on a trial, I'll seek reimbursement for attorney/legal fees. Because we are currently splitting his salary 50/50 (I don't work because of health issues). He says because of this, judgment on legal fees would also be ordered 50/50. I think he resents having had to compromise at all in any way throughout this whole process and he's determined to go full steam ahead on this final issue. If we end up at trial, can I use information about a significant personal inheritance he had during our marriage that he told me he didn't intend to share with me and put all the proceeds into a personal account to protect them? Can you think of anything that could be said to him that may convince him to settle rather than go to court? He's definitely a person who avoids confrontation at all costs, so I don't understand why he's not looking to avoid a trial.
Thanks.