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beachnut04
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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? MA and RI
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Hi, am hoping someone can answer me. Please forgive me if this is too long, but I want to be thorough. My Mom passed away in April of 04. She started complaining to her dr last summer about back, lower back and pelvic area pain. Dr. kept saying she had urinary tract infections, and bladder infections. In fact, she hospitalized her for a couple of days, ordered an MRI and CT scan and then discharged her with a bladder infection diagnosis. A few weeks later, Mom was rushed to hospital because she had tumors literally -- yes, literally, falling out of her when she tried to use the bathroom. Hospital in MA rushed her to hospital in RI, where she was immediately admitted to oncology unit and tests were run. She was told on 10/31/03 that she had cancer and may need surgery. Was referred to oncologist immediately. Oncologist examined her and referred her to see cardiologist to "clear" her for surgery (mom had stent previously). Cardiologist saw her total of 3 times and told her she could have hysterectomy....cancer looked to be in uterus, but could have spread. Surgery done 12/30, cancer had spread well beyond uterus, so hysterectomy done and nothing else, "very aggressive cancer" dr. said, told her radiation would be next. However, never had radiation because she was not doing well after surgery (nurses "dropped" her moving her out of bed one day). Anyway, transferred to nursing home 1 mo. later and told to contact hospice. Dr. refused to give anyone "timeline" of what to expect, no matter how many times anyone (including Mom) asked how long did she have, what stage, etc., dr. refused to answer. 3 months before Mom died, she asked dr. "when will I get better? it hurts so much, when will I be myself again?" (I was with her and witnessed it). Dr. took her hand and said "everyone's different, I don't know." Mom died less than 3 months later. She never got out of bed again. Now we are getting bills from her "regular" dr for performing "breast and pelvic" exams......I specifically spoke with Mom about this, she said dr NEVER EVER performed one. What can I do? Can I get her med records without going to court? Can this oncologist "dr" be held to some standard to inform patients that they are dying quickly?? Sorry for the length - thanks for any answers.
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Hi, am hoping someone can answer me. Please forgive me if this is too long, but I want to be thorough. My Mom passed away in April of 04. She started complaining to her dr last summer about back, lower back and pelvic area pain. Dr. kept saying she had urinary tract infections, and bladder infections. In fact, she hospitalized her for a couple of days, ordered an MRI and CT scan and then discharged her with a bladder infection diagnosis. A few weeks later, Mom was rushed to hospital because she had tumors literally -- yes, literally, falling out of her when she tried to use the bathroom. Hospital in MA rushed her to hospital in RI, where she was immediately admitted to oncology unit and tests were run. She was told on 10/31/03 that she had cancer and may need surgery. Was referred to oncologist immediately. Oncologist examined her and referred her to see cardiologist to "clear" her for surgery (mom had stent previously). Cardiologist saw her total of 3 times and told her she could have hysterectomy....cancer looked to be in uterus, but could have spread. Surgery done 12/30, cancer had spread well beyond uterus, so hysterectomy done and nothing else, "very aggressive cancer" dr. said, told her radiation would be next. However, never had radiation because she was not doing well after surgery (nurses "dropped" her moving her out of bed one day). Anyway, transferred to nursing home 1 mo. later and told to contact hospice. Dr. refused to give anyone "timeline" of what to expect, no matter how many times anyone (including Mom) asked how long did she have, what stage, etc., dr. refused to answer. 3 months before Mom died, she asked dr. "when will I get better? it hurts so much, when will I be myself again?" (I was with her and witnessed it). Dr. took her hand and said "everyone's different, I don't know." Mom died less than 3 months later. She never got out of bed again. Now we are getting bills from her "regular" dr for performing "breast and pelvic" exams......I specifically spoke with Mom about this, she said dr NEVER EVER performed one. What can I do? Can I get her med records without going to court? Can this oncologist "dr" be held to some standard to inform patients that they are dying quickly?? Sorry for the length - thanks for any answers.