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daddy247
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My wife left me over 5 months ago to "find herself". She left the house, her child from a previous marriage (who I have loved and cared for 24/7 for 5 years, I am the ONLY daddy this child has ever known - wife won't sign anything "legal" for even temporary custody of this little one) and "our" 3 year old. She took the car too. We signed an agreement between ourselves, her end stating that she would pay to help with the kids, she would see the kids on the weekends and as often as she could, that she would pay for HER OWN car and insurance (my lawyer says this is not even a valid paper to submit as evidence of an agreement - I was taught that even a handshake agreement "could" stand up in court...hmmmm). She has paid ZERO to help with the kids, bills, including not making her car payment (which is still in my name and about to become 3 months past due - I tried to go pick it up so I could sell it and she HID it from me) she's alos NOT paying for the insurance on it (I'm STILL paying that since the car is in my name!) She does NOT come see the kids (visited ONCE for an hour in the past 7 weeks!) PLUS, she helps herself to the bank account any time she feels like it (she left me and the kids with less than $10 to last us 2 weeks...not once but TWICE) and I can't even close the bank account because she refuses to sign off on it!! Well, DUH, I know I'm an idiot for leaving money in that account but with direct deposits and a military paycheck, it's not as easy as one might think to do that! OH did I mention that she DOES have a job? AND to top it all off, she smoking POT!!!!!
I have a lawyer, filed for divorce. Went to the 1st hearing and wife didn't file her divorce papers, didn't get a lawyer, showed up to court and acted like a "nut case" (my lawyers discription, not mine!). Judge gave her more time (she already had a month!)...did NOT discuss temporary child support, temporary ANYTHING!
My main question is...what in heavens name am I supposed to do until the courts decide to take action? Is this normal for a divorce to take months and months? Following this hearing, my lawyer (at my insistance) filed for temporary child support with the courts, haven't heard a word back (that's been 3 weeks ago) Lawyer filed "set" papers (as I understand that, it means she filed to have a court date set to finalize all of this....I guess that's what it meant) I'm so confused, overwhelmed and financially stretched (the lwayer has gotten over 3 grand from me already and still racking up costs) and I must sound like a nut case myself (for that I apologize) I needed to get this off my chest and MAYBE get a bit of advise for sanity sake!
My wife left me over 5 months ago to "find herself". She left the house, her child from a previous marriage (who I have loved and cared for 24/7 for 5 years, I am the ONLY daddy this child has ever known - wife won't sign anything "legal" for even temporary custody of this little one) and "our" 3 year old. She took the car too. We signed an agreement between ourselves, her end stating that she would pay to help with the kids, she would see the kids on the weekends and as often as she could, that she would pay for HER OWN car and insurance (my lawyer says this is not even a valid paper to submit as evidence of an agreement - I was taught that even a handshake agreement "could" stand up in court...hmmmm). She has paid ZERO to help with the kids, bills, including not making her car payment (which is still in my name and about to become 3 months past due - I tried to go pick it up so I could sell it and she HID it from me) she's alos NOT paying for the insurance on it (I'm STILL paying that since the car is in my name!) She does NOT come see the kids (visited ONCE for an hour in the past 7 weeks!) PLUS, she helps herself to the bank account any time she feels like it (she left me and the kids with less than $10 to last us 2 weeks...not once but TWICE) and I can't even close the bank account because she refuses to sign off on it!! Well, DUH, I know I'm an idiot for leaving money in that account but with direct deposits and a military paycheck, it's not as easy as one might think to do that! OH did I mention that she DOES have a job? AND to top it all off, she smoking POT!!!!!
I have a lawyer, filed for divorce. Went to the 1st hearing and wife didn't file her divorce papers, didn't get a lawyer, showed up to court and acted like a "nut case" (my lawyers discription, not mine!). Judge gave her more time (she already had a month!)...did NOT discuss temporary child support, temporary ANYTHING!
My main question is...what in heavens name am I supposed to do until the courts decide to take action? Is this normal for a divorce to take months and months? Following this hearing, my lawyer (at my insistance) filed for temporary child support with the courts, haven't heard a word back (that's been 3 weeks ago) Lawyer filed "set" papers (as I understand that, it means she filed to have a court date set to finalize all of this....I guess that's what it meant) I'm so confused, overwhelmed and financially stretched (the lwayer has gotten over 3 grand from me already and still racking up costs) and I must sound like a nut case myself (for that I apologize) I needed to get this off my chest and MAYBE get a bit of advise for sanity sake!