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My husband and I lost EVERYTHING after 9/11 due to mass layoffs. We were under considerable stress and fought constantly. One night, after a long argument, things got out of hand, and my husband pushed me. I fell backward and broke my arm. My husband left the house for work a few minutes later, not knowing that my arm was broken. My brother in law reported this to the police a few hours later, against my wishes, and my husband was arrested. I begged the police not to arrest him, and refuse to press charges. In the state of Kansas, when something like this happens, if the "victim" refuses to press charges, the state takes over and presses charges anyway. To keep it quiet and get it iver with quick, my husband pled guilty, not knowing what this could mean to his military career. He served 48 hours in jail, one year probation, completed anger management, and paid huge fines and costs. Still, no one said a thing about the effect this had on his military career. My husband is prior USMC, and currently National Guard- has served for 13 years. Recently I read about how a person who has been convicted of a "qualifying" domestic violence charge is not allowed to continue to serve in the military. Is there nothing we can do to save my husbands military status? What is "qualifying"? If my husband were to talk to JAG, would he be incriminating himself? What do we do now? This was not true domestic violence, it was an argument that got out of hand and caused an accident. My husband didn't intentionally break my arm. Shouldn't he have been told, when he made the decision to plead, what effects this would have? (If he had known, he would have gotten an attorney and fought it!)Thanks!
My husband and I lost EVERYTHING after 9/11 due to mass layoffs. We were under considerable stress and fought constantly. One night, after a long argument, things got out of hand, and my husband pushed me. I fell backward and broke my arm. My husband left the house for work a few minutes later, not knowing that my arm was broken. My brother in law reported this to the police a few hours later, against my wishes, and my husband was arrested. I begged the police not to arrest him, and refuse to press charges. In the state of Kansas, when something like this happens, if the "victim" refuses to press charges, the state takes over and presses charges anyway. To keep it quiet and get it iver with quick, my husband pled guilty, not knowing what this could mean to his military career. He served 48 hours in jail, one year probation, completed anger management, and paid huge fines and costs. Still, no one said a thing about the effect this had on his military career. My husband is prior USMC, and currently National Guard- has served for 13 years. Recently I read about how a person who has been convicted of a "qualifying" domestic violence charge is not allowed to continue to serve in the military. Is there nothing we can do to save my husbands military status? What is "qualifying"? If my husband were to talk to JAG, would he be incriminating himself? What do we do now? This was not true domestic violence, it was an argument that got out of hand and caused an accident. My husband didn't intentionally break my arm. Shouldn't he have been told, when he made the decision to plead, what effects this would have? (If he had known, he would have gotten an attorney and fought it!)Thanks!