What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CA. My sister has been in an abusive relationship. Recently her boyfriend hit her a few times and tried to choke her with a phone cord. A neighbor called the police and he was arrested. He spent two days in jail, but was released because my sister decided not to press charges. Before the police arrived at her house, the man threatened her telling her that if he went to jail over this he would make sure that everyone she new hated her for ever knowing him. He said he was going to start by making my life (and my childrens lives) a living hell. While he was being arrested my sister told the police officer the threat that had been made, she advised that she get a restraining order and include me on it so that he would not be able to come near me or my family. Well, she ended up getting back together with this man and not getting the restraining order after all (go figure). He is now calling people I know trying to find out where I work. I don't know what he has up his sleave, but I don't feel safe. He lives two blocks away from my home. I live by myself with my 3 children. Am I able to get a restraining order against this man because of merely verbal threats? If so what do I need and how do I go about doing it?