What is the name of your state? CA
So, I'm recently married to a woman with a kid. A delightful child, her mother is the NPC with visitation every other weekend, but dealing with her ex is an unholy chore (one example being her telling him she might be late returning the child this Sunday since she doesn't drive and I'm working, and his response being that if HIS daughter wasn't back by the agreed upon time in the court papers, he was calling the police and calling it kidnapping).
My wife doesn't work, despite my requests to find something part time (the search hasn't been very fruitful), if for no other reason than to pay the child support (as I make enough to comfortably support us both). As a result, she's in arrears, and the ex is getting antsy. One could ask, "why haven't you helped?" and my answer would be a combination of "not my kid, and I don't want my hard earned cash going to this guy's already substantial beer fund" and my fear that with the laws and horror stories here in CA, that my contribution now (in the efforts to help out) might come back to bite me and cause me to actually be responsible for payments in the eyes of some judge.
He has recently told her he's going to court this Monday as a result of her lack of payments. While he has a history of being a blowhard and threatening with bluffs, I am wondering if I should be concerned.
I have other questions which I'll be posting in the Custody forum as well.
So, I'm recently married to a woman with a kid. A delightful child, her mother is the NPC with visitation every other weekend, but dealing with her ex is an unholy chore (one example being her telling him she might be late returning the child this Sunday since she doesn't drive and I'm working, and his response being that if HIS daughter wasn't back by the agreed upon time in the court papers, he was calling the police and calling it kidnapping).
My wife doesn't work, despite my requests to find something part time (the search hasn't been very fruitful), if for no other reason than to pay the child support (as I make enough to comfortably support us both). As a result, she's in arrears, and the ex is getting antsy. One could ask, "why haven't you helped?" and my answer would be a combination of "not my kid, and I don't want my hard earned cash going to this guy's already substantial beer fund" and my fear that with the laws and horror stories here in CA, that my contribution now (in the efforts to help out) might come back to bite me and cause me to actually be responsible for payments in the eyes of some judge.
He has recently told her he's going to court this Monday as a result of her lack of payments. While he has a history of being a blowhard and threatening with bluffs, I am wondering if I should be concerned.
I have other questions which I'll be posting in the Custody forum as well.