What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? What is the name of your state? We live in Arizona
I am married to a man that his ex wife is about as messed up as any one person I have ever met...He has been paying child support every month with out missing a payment for the past ten years....Last May his daughter (now 13) decided that she would rather live with us than to stay at her mothers house...(She would still see her mother and that was not an issue at all)..THE agreement (the father and the mother) was that since their daughter was now living with her dad , he would no longer have to pay the mother child support. NOW since the mother only saw her two days or so, every two weeks!! IF THAT!! the mother openly agreed on the child living with us as long as she did not have to pay him child support...we all agreed with out any arguing or any issues....All was fine for 7 or maybe even 9 months...until the daughter wanted to go back to her old school...So without any pushing or whinning, we sent her back to her mothers. SO my husband was to now pay the 2nd part of the school years tuition..(for a private school where she was going to a public school while living here) The father paid the $2600 for the remaining 18 weeks of school...which tey both agreed on......BEFORE he was paying $700 a month for child support...and at $700 a month for (lets just say 7 months to be nice, it was more but who cares..) that would be approximately $4900, that HE NOR THE MOTHER WOULD HAVE TO PAY!....so the verbal agreement was HE was to pay for the school...($2600...) and remember the mother did not pay us support the entire time we had their daughter...! fair to me...WRONG!
THEN...after THE daughter moved back to her mothers, the father would then not have to pay the ex wife the $700 a month for the next 7 months as long as he paid the 2nd part of the school year (follow me??)....sounds fair right? WELL it didn't happen like that at all!
Now the ex wife is demanding that he start paying the full $700 child support as of April 1st... right after he just paid the full $2600 for the PRIVATE school.....even though their agreement was different! so out of the seven months that they agreed was to be called "even"...she now has residened her part of their agreement after only two months of the daughter going back! so she is asking for the full child support we still have the daugther 50% of the time mind you...AND WE HAD TO PAY FOR THE SCHOOL!! She basically has him by the balls? right!? This woman has done more harm to our current family ...as well as her own daughter ..that no one would ever believe it... all the hardship she has caused to so many of us!!...We (my husband and I) are now looking at getting separated or maybe even divorced, over the hell this woman has put all of us through...(mainly my husband.)......This woman is a pill popping, crontic liar and a nut case, that threatens (the father daily I may add) of never letting him see his daugther again if he does not do things the way SHE says they are to be done...Now her newest is she will report him as not paying any child support due to the fact that he always just deposited the money directly into the mom's account every month and he didn't ...nor does he have any proof of the past ten years of all the on time payments??? (He does have a lot of them but not all of them....)
Why or How do these mothers get away with such mean and vicious lies and threats? Is there any way that the father can fight this with out having to paying these incredibly high lawyer fees? Even though we may not make it through this issue....(we have been through many but I can't keep going on like this either) I still care and love this man and hate to see this happen to him or anyone else for that matter!
.......I have two children myself and have never received a nickle from their father and in all honesty...looking at the junk that these two go through daily...I am glad I don't get the silly child support either!!!...
So what can he do? Will he have to start paying again? how can they re-evaluate the amount he pays since it was so long ago and that included day care expensenses etc?? with out it going into a long drawn out affair? He is willing to pay it...but still It is not right that this woman uses her daughter like bait...why do the men get screwed so much and the woman walk away with their choice of cake and then get to eat it too!? Even when it was their choice to leave the man in the first place!??? I do not get it... and better yet....I am a woman??? No ownder why they call us bitches! cause it fits!
please help us go in the right direction..we just don't have this kind of money to throw at her every beck and call!
thanks
Lorri
I am married to a man that his ex wife is about as messed up as any one person I have ever met...He has been paying child support every month with out missing a payment for the past ten years....Last May his daughter (now 13) decided that she would rather live with us than to stay at her mothers house...(She would still see her mother and that was not an issue at all)..THE agreement (the father and the mother) was that since their daughter was now living with her dad , he would no longer have to pay the mother child support. NOW since the mother only saw her two days or so, every two weeks!! IF THAT!! the mother openly agreed on the child living with us as long as she did not have to pay him child support...we all agreed with out any arguing or any issues....All was fine for 7 or maybe even 9 months...until the daughter wanted to go back to her old school...So without any pushing or whinning, we sent her back to her mothers. SO my husband was to now pay the 2nd part of the school years tuition..(for a private school where she was going to a public school while living here) The father paid the $2600 for the remaining 18 weeks of school...which tey both agreed on......BEFORE he was paying $700 a month for child support...and at $700 a month for (lets just say 7 months to be nice, it was more but who cares..) that would be approximately $4900, that HE NOR THE MOTHER WOULD HAVE TO PAY!....so the verbal agreement was HE was to pay for the school...($2600...) and remember the mother did not pay us support the entire time we had their daughter...! fair to me...WRONG!
THEN...after THE daughter moved back to her mothers, the father would then not have to pay the ex wife the $700 a month for the next 7 months as long as he paid the 2nd part of the school year (follow me??)....sounds fair right? WELL it didn't happen like that at all!
Now the ex wife is demanding that he start paying the full $700 child support as of April 1st... right after he just paid the full $2600 for the PRIVATE school.....even though their agreement was different! so out of the seven months that they agreed was to be called "even"...she now has residened her part of their agreement after only two months of the daughter going back! so she is asking for the full child support we still have the daugther 50% of the time mind you...AND WE HAD TO PAY FOR THE SCHOOL!! She basically has him by the balls? right!? This woman has done more harm to our current family ...as well as her own daughter ..that no one would ever believe it... all the hardship she has caused to so many of us!!...We (my husband and I) are now looking at getting separated or maybe even divorced, over the hell this woman has put all of us through...(mainly my husband.)......This woman is a pill popping, crontic liar and a nut case, that threatens (the father daily I may add) of never letting him see his daugther again if he does not do things the way SHE says they are to be done...Now her newest is she will report him as not paying any child support due to the fact that he always just deposited the money directly into the mom's account every month and he didn't ...nor does he have any proof of the past ten years of all the on time payments??? (He does have a lot of them but not all of them....)
Why or How do these mothers get away with such mean and vicious lies and threats? Is there any way that the father can fight this with out having to paying these incredibly high lawyer fees? Even though we may not make it through this issue....(we have been through many but I can't keep going on like this either) I still care and love this man and hate to see this happen to him or anyone else for that matter!
.......I have two children myself and have never received a nickle from their father and in all honesty...looking at the junk that these two go through daily...I am glad I don't get the silly child support either!!!...
So what can he do? Will he have to start paying again? how can they re-evaluate the amount he pays since it was so long ago and that included day care expensenses etc?? with out it going into a long drawn out affair? He is willing to pay it...but still It is not right that this woman uses her daughter like bait...why do the men get screwed so much and the woman walk away with their choice of cake and then get to eat it too!? Even when it was their choice to leave the man in the first place!??? I do not get it... and better yet....I am a woman??? No ownder why they call us bitches! cause it fits!
please help us go in the right direction..we just don't have this kind of money to throw at her every beck and call!
thanks
Lorri