I live in tenn. and my husband is being taken to court over back child support. It is not a clear and easy case, so we have hired an attorney. My husband divorced in 1993 with 2 small children ages 4 and 6 at the time. He was given joint custody and had to pay little child support due to the fact that he had them a great deal of time. He paid his ex directly and there was never any problem. then one year after the divorce she gets married and they all leave the state. she gave him no notice that she was leaving or her wherabouts. so, for him, since she never contacted him, he didn't pay child support, because there was no one to pay it to. he even hired an attorney sometime afterwards trying to have her charged for contempt of court, but she never answered to the notice that was run in the newspaper. her family still lives in town. she would allow the children to come and stay with her family during the summer and on holidays. the family would call my husband and tell him they had the kids and he could come over there and visit with them. sometimes, they actually let him keep them over night. this went on for four years. they wanted total control. then in 97 she decided the kids couldn't come around anymore. now, her second husband and her divorced and she has moved back to town. and now after all these years with no contact, she is taking my husband to court. she still will not let the kids see their dad, they are now 16 and 18. the 18 yr. old is in his last yr. of school. she is not interested in the children's relationship with their father, or she would have never denied him access to his own children. she wasn't even interested in getting her child support payments until she got divorced from current husband. It is really sad that someone can do this to their children, and then go to court demanding money for theirselves(that is all that matters!) but, what we are afraid of, is the current child support will be modified to his income as to what he makes now, and not what it was in 1993 when they were divorced and he was given joint custody.this doesn't seem fair at all that a woman can deny a father his parental rights, and then act like she doesn't care about recieving child support, or does nothing to collect it. then waits after 12 years and goes back to court and wants all back pay plus current. How could my husband get back all of his lost visits with his kids? they are now almost grown, and they have been alienated from their dad. Has anyone been in a similar situation or might give advice as to what we can expect. with attorney cost and this child support arrearanges, plus current, we are afraid we will lose everything we own. Neither of us are young enough to start all over. Any help or suggestions would be appreciated.