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I am wondering what rights my ex has. He had been verbally, emotionally and physically abusive and realized that I was considering leaving. His drug use was horrific. He decided to tell me about his "newly found illness" (which was in 1998). After repeated abuse sessions I finally ran/left in 2001 - left the house, left everything and hid for me and my children's sake. We lost the house, (I was afraid to go back) and everything else but in the meantime I took out a restraining order and ended up getting an apartment. He moved out of the area and started a new relationship. For 2 years I had no idea where he was and was unable to file for divorce.
He is back in this area now and wants to file for a divorce seeking alimony, half my 401K and anything else he can get. (He broke up with his girlfriend) I believe he knew about his illness before we got married and don't think he deserves anything. I didn't mention the time when I came home to find him and another woman naked in our bedroom. I just want out but am I really going to be held responsible to pay him alimony and give him half of what I've saved?
I am wondering what rights my ex has. He had been verbally, emotionally and physically abusive and realized that I was considering leaving. His drug use was horrific. He decided to tell me about his "newly found illness" (which was in 1998). After repeated abuse sessions I finally ran/left in 2001 - left the house, left everything and hid for me and my children's sake. We lost the house, (I was afraid to go back) and everything else but in the meantime I took out a restraining order and ended up getting an apartment. He moved out of the area and started a new relationship. For 2 years I had no idea where he was and was unable to file for divorce.
He is back in this area now and wants to file for a divorce seeking alimony, half my 401K and anything else he can get. (He broke up with his girlfriend) I believe he knew about his illness before we got married and don't think he deserves anything. I didn't mention the time when I came home to find him and another woman naked in our bedroom. I just want out but am I really going to be held responsible to pay him alimony and give him half of what I've saved?