NY
OK, here is the sitch. I have sole legal custody of my children. X hubby and I agree that we want the children to stay with my hubby in the event of my death. GP's would do everything in their power to gain custody away from father and stepfather (and it probably wouldn't be to hard to be honest in the case of the X). Would the courts allow a open stepparent adoption?
Biodad would agree to the adoption if (and these are also conditions I agree to):
Children maintain their current last names.
All arrearage be forgiven and no future support (obvious).
Reason visitation still to maintained by biodad. (We have been able to work out our own schedule without the help of the courts since our divorce 2 years ago.)
When both parties move out of the state of NY, agreeable visitation to both parties.
My X would be happy with the fact that he could still play dad without having to pay for it and I would be comforted by the fact that my hubby would be the legal father and noone would be able to take them from him.
1 is this a possibility?
2 is this something we could do in mediation? or would a lawyer be able to draw this up for us with minimal cost?
OK, here is the sitch. I have sole legal custody of my children. X hubby and I agree that we want the children to stay with my hubby in the event of my death. GP's would do everything in their power to gain custody away from father and stepfather (and it probably wouldn't be to hard to be honest in the case of the X). Would the courts allow a open stepparent adoption?
Biodad would agree to the adoption if (and these are also conditions I agree to):
Children maintain their current last names.
All arrearage be forgiven and no future support (obvious).
Reason visitation still to maintained by biodad. (We have been able to work out our own schedule without the help of the courts since our divorce 2 years ago.)
When both parties move out of the state of NY, agreeable visitation to both parties.
My X would be happy with the fact that he could still play dad without having to pay for it and I would be comforted by the fact that my hubby would be the legal father and noone would be able to take them from him.
1 is this a possibility?
2 is this something we could do in mediation? or would a lawyer be able to draw this up for us with minimal cost?