What is the name of your state? Oklahoma
I have guardianship of my two grandchildren ages 3 and 4. The oldest is a special needs child due to his parents drug abuse. My husband and I petitioned the Court for guardianship because the children were living with us and the parents used drugs. Mom was in court, dad wasn't. Both were proven unfit. Mom was given a Plan to Terminate Guardianship agreed upon by both parties. She was given 6 months to get her act together. Three years later, she still hasn't completed one of the items on the Plan. Furthermore, she still admits to using pot (and did in Court). When ordered by the judge to take a test about a year and a half ago she refused. This order was after she refused to take the Plan's agreed -upon test. The guardianship order was modified to drop the Plan and give her only visitation at our descretion. She visits about twice a month for a few hours. Dad straighted up for a couple of months, but nothing came from it. He has had no contact since Christmas. Both are constantly in trouble with DHS for support since I have State-Aided child care. The dad pays off and on to keep out of trouble.
Mom did pay regularly until 6 months ago when she returned to her serious drug habit of Meth. Here is my question: I've heard that it's almost impossible to get permanent custody or adopt your grandchildren in Oklahoma. What are our options to provide our grandchildren with a stable home and keep them where they are? The special needs child has made a 100% turn around since he's lived with us. At one point the doctors even thought he was autistic. Any advice appreciated.
I have guardianship of my two grandchildren ages 3 and 4. The oldest is a special needs child due to his parents drug abuse. My husband and I petitioned the Court for guardianship because the children were living with us and the parents used drugs. Mom was in court, dad wasn't. Both were proven unfit. Mom was given a Plan to Terminate Guardianship agreed upon by both parties. She was given 6 months to get her act together. Three years later, she still hasn't completed one of the items on the Plan. Furthermore, she still admits to using pot (and did in Court). When ordered by the judge to take a test about a year and a half ago she refused. This order was after she refused to take the Plan's agreed -upon test. The guardianship order was modified to drop the Plan and give her only visitation at our descretion. She visits about twice a month for a few hours. Dad straighted up for a couple of months, but nothing came from it. He has had no contact since Christmas. Both are constantly in trouble with DHS for support since I have State-Aided child care. The dad pays off and on to keep out of trouble.
Mom did pay regularly until 6 months ago when she returned to her serious drug habit of Meth. Here is my question: I've heard that it's almost impossible to get permanent custody or adopt your grandchildren in Oklahoma. What are our options to provide our grandchildren with a stable home and keep them where they are? The special needs child has made a 100% turn around since he's lived with us. At one point the doctors even thought he was autistic. Any advice appreciated.