What is the name of your state? Pennsylvania
I am unmarried in a heterosexual relationship for several years. My girlfriend has a son whose father abandoned him and is willing to terminate his parental rights. I would like to adopt her son since I love him and already take care of him in every way possible. We found a lawyer who took a $1,000 retainer and said no problem it will be done in two months. He said he would get the appropriate paperwork out to the biological father within two weeks. However, it has been several months and nothing has happened. The lawyer rarely takes our calls or returns them. Finally we got through to him and he says now since we are not married and have no immediate plans to get married it may be difficult if not impossible to get accomplished but he will try. He wants to meet with us to sign more papers to proceed which is confusing to us and to get $2,000 more to complete the deal, but we are hestitant since we have not received anything or even a statement showing what our retainer went for thus far. We are also worried that in PA this may not get done since the state is more old school and looks favorably only to married couples. My question is this ... What are the chances in my state of getting a successful adoption in my specific case...unmarried man who wants to adopt girlfriend's son.... I might add that I own a home and we also have a daughter together. I am raising both children with my girlfriend (their mother) in my home. My girlfriend's son calls me dad and knows me as his dad so she wants him to have my name so there are no problems at school and so both children have the same last name. Please advise as to whether I need to wait until we decide to marry or if I will have a decent chance to adopt now and also...should I get another lawyer??? Thanks
I am unmarried in a heterosexual relationship for several years. My girlfriend has a son whose father abandoned him and is willing to terminate his parental rights. I would like to adopt her son since I love him and already take care of him in every way possible. We found a lawyer who took a $1,000 retainer and said no problem it will be done in two months. He said he would get the appropriate paperwork out to the biological father within two weeks. However, it has been several months and nothing has happened. The lawyer rarely takes our calls or returns them. Finally we got through to him and he says now since we are not married and have no immediate plans to get married it may be difficult if not impossible to get accomplished but he will try. He wants to meet with us to sign more papers to proceed which is confusing to us and to get $2,000 more to complete the deal, but we are hestitant since we have not received anything or even a statement showing what our retainer went for thus far. We are also worried that in PA this may not get done since the state is more old school and looks favorably only to married couples. My question is this ... What are the chances in my state of getting a successful adoption in my specific case...unmarried man who wants to adopt girlfriend's son.... I might add that I own a home and we also have a daughter together. I am raising both children with my girlfriend (their mother) in my home. My girlfriend's son calls me dad and knows me as his dad so she wants him to have my name so there are no problems at school and so both children have the same last name. Please advise as to whether I need to wait until we decide to marry or if I will have a decent chance to adopt now and also...should I get another lawyer??? Thanks
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