socalguy27
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? CA
i am going through a divorce mediation. we had initially worked out mutually agreeable numbers for the spousal support. but now she wants the terms of the divorce to be worded so that it says that the alimony is not going to be negotiable under any circumstance.
the alimony numbers are the same as we worked out before, but the very fact that she has the part "not negotiable" added to the terms is making me think that there might be some positive changes in her income she is not telling me about.
i knew, that sometime soon, she would have a new work-contract in effect(that should state her responsibilities and monthly pay), so i requested that document - but she does not want to show that document to me. she says the only way she is going to show it is if we go to court for the divorce, and that if i did, she could get a lot more financially out of me.
i've heard court battles could be very expensive, and even if i ended up with having to pay lower alimony, that may be offset by the legal fees for the court. at the same time, it seems to me that she's sort of threatening me to accept her terms for alimony - i dont like that, but i want to be careful enough to be making a sound decision here.
Any advice on what I should do?
also, what happens if i sign the agreement now with the terms she wants, and later find out that she is making way more? (my suggestion was to add the terms that if there is a 50% or more increase in her paycheck, the alimony changes to a fixed lower amount, but she rejected that)
thank you for reading.
i am going through a divorce mediation. we had initially worked out mutually agreeable numbers for the spousal support. but now she wants the terms of the divorce to be worded so that it says that the alimony is not going to be negotiable under any circumstance.
the alimony numbers are the same as we worked out before, but the very fact that she has the part "not negotiable" added to the terms is making me think that there might be some positive changes in her income she is not telling me about.
i knew, that sometime soon, she would have a new work-contract in effect(that should state her responsibilities and monthly pay), so i requested that document - but she does not want to show that document to me. she says the only way she is going to show it is if we go to court for the divorce, and that if i did, she could get a lot more financially out of me.
i've heard court battles could be very expensive, and even if i ended up with having to pay lower alimony, that may be offset by the legal fees for the court. at the same time, it seems to me that she's sort of threatening me to accept her terms for alimony - i dont like that, but i want to be careful enough to be making a sound decision here.
Any advice on what I should do?
also, what happens if i sign the agreement now with the terms she wants, and later find out that she is making way more? (my suggestion was to add the terms that if there is a 50% or more increase in her paycheck, the alimony changes to a fixed lower amount, but she rejected that)
thank you for reading.