What is the name of your state? California
I am a Chinese citizen and I got married in China to a US citizen last December. We loved each other very much, at least I thought so until 2 months ago. Right now we are living apart by the ocean, him in the States and me in China.
Since we are 6000 miles apart, the only way that we commincate is through emails and phone calls. But starting from May, my husband all of a sudden wouldn't pick up my phone calls any more. I couldn't get hold of him, and I didn't know what was going on. There were a couple of times that I did coincidently manage to get hold of him because I was on the phone with his kids and he happened to step in. Until then he told me that he wasn't ready for a marriage even though he loves me. He was afraid that he is gonna make me misserible. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said he didn't know. The situation has been going on for over 2 months and the only information I got from him was he wasn't ready. But he didn't tell me whether he wanted to have a divorce or not. So my question is, we got married in China and the marriage was notorized in China. If either of us wants to file a divorce if we really couldn't work it out, should it be filed in China or in the states? Can this procedure be taken without the physical presence of either of us? Because problems have to be solved one way or other.
My second question is I heard from some one that it's not illegal for a married person to have extra-merrital affair in California, is this true? Does it mean that if my husband is having an affair, as long as he doesn't marry that woman he can just keep it like that having me dangling here? I am not saying that he is having an affair right now, but as I mentioned before, since he refused to have any contact with me, I don't know what's flying obove there.
Thank whomever is willing to answer those questions for me?
I am a Chinese citizen and I got married in China to a US citizen last December. We loved each other very much, at least I thought so until 2 months ago. Right now we are living apart by the ocean, him in the States and me in China.
Since we are 6000 miles apart, the only way that we commincate is through emails and phone calls. But starting from May, my husband all of a sudden wouldn't pick up my phone calls any more. I couldn't get hold of him, and I didn't know what was going on. There were a couple of times that I did coincidently manage to get hold of him because I was on the phone with his kids and he happened to step in. Until then he told me that he wasn't ready for a marriage even though he loves me. He was afraid that he is gonna make me misserible. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said he didn't know. The situation has been going on for over 2 months and the only information I got from him was he wasn't ready. But he didn't tell me whether he wanted to have a divorce or not. So my question is, we got married in China and the marriage was notorized in China. If either of us wants to file a divorce if we really couldn't work it out, should it be filed in China or in the states? Can this procedure be taken without the physical presence of either of us? Because problems have to be solved one way or other.
My second question is I heard from some one that it's not illegal for a married person to have extra-merrital affair in California, is this true? Does it mean that if my husband is having an affair, as long as he doesn't marry that woman he can just keep it like that having me dangling here? I am not saying that he is having an affair right now, but as I mentioned before, since he refused to have any contact with me, I don't know what's flying obove there.
Thank whomever is willing to answer those questions for me?