What is the name of your state? Illinois
Thanks in advance for reading. I am in a tough situation, my wife has seperated from me and is living at her mothers and is in a hurry to get an apartment and start school in august. The catch is we have accrued $20k in debt and that needs to be paid before she can do all that so she is in a hurry to sell our condo. I don't want to sell due to the fact we have a daughter and she has her room here. She just wants equity from our condo to pay of the debt and start saving. She has told me she doesn't want a divorce but wants to pay all the debt and have her head cleared before we start concentrating on our relationship. What I am afraid of is that she has decided on divorce but wants me to sell our condo so that I am left without a home for my daughter. If she were to divorce me I would be able to say she abandoned the home and left me with all the responsibility which she basically did. She wants us to get 2 apartments and see if our relationship works and cancel a lease and move in together. I am also afraid of the fact that she has a spending problem so that may be an issue. I have offered to buy her out and she gets angry and tells me to do whatever I want but if she decides to come back she will not be coming back to our condo. She thinks it would take too long to sell and be a waste of money. She doesn't think renting 2 apartments is a waste. What our my options and would me claiming she abandoned the home in case of a divorce help me any? She did not leave because of physical abuse and we are on speaking terms she claims I was not supporting and controlling, I have been going through couseling and it has helped but she is not sure of what to do she said. Sorry is so long and if I left any info out I can add it to better explain. Thanks
Thanks in advance for reading. I am in a tough situation, my wife has seperated from me and is living at her mothers and is in a hurry to get an apartment and start school in august. The catch is we have accrued $20k in debt and that needs to be paid before she can do all that so she is in a hurry to sell our condo. I don't want to sell due to the fact we have a daughter and she has her room here. She just wants equity from our condo to pay of the debt and start saving. She has told me she doesn't want a divorce but wants to pay all the debt and have her head cleared before we start concentrating on our relationship. What I am afraid of is that she has decided on divorce but wants me to sell our condo so that I am left without a home for my daughter. If she were to divorce me I would be able to say she abandoned the home and left me with all the responsibility which she basically did. She wants us to get 2 apartments and see if our relationship works and cancel a lease and move in together. I am also afraid of the fact that she has a spending problem so that may be an issue. I have offered to buy her out and she gets angry and tells me to do whatever I want but if she decides to come back she will not be coming back to our condo. She thinks it would take too long to sell and be a waste of money. She doesn't think renting 2 apartments is a waste. What our my options and would me claiming she abandoned the home in case of a divorce help me any? She did not leave because of physical abuse and we are on speaking terms she claims I was not supporting and controlling, I have been going through couseling and it has helped but she is not sure of what to do she said. Sorry is so long and if I left any info out I can add it to better explain. Thanks