Need_Advice_Plz
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What is the name of your state?New Jersey
A 25-year-old man used the internet (myspace.com) to track down a 14-year-old girl and lure her to his house. While there, he gave her marijuana and alcohol and had sex with her. They started an intimate relationship, which they are still having. He frequently writes to the girl, now 15, confessing his love for her, and even stole a ring from his mother and "proposed" to her in August '05 (she accepted and wears the ring everywhere). She turns 16 next May. The police have evidence about the sex and inappropriate relations between the two, including hotel receipts (and both admit to being at the hotel, but not to "doing" anything), a hand-written letter from the man asking the girl to say nothing of their sexual relationship ("because nobody will understand how we can love each other"), finding the girl at his house after she'd been missing for two days, e-mails between them about "what great head" she gives, and how great thier sex is...etc. The only thing is that the girl refuses to say, verbally, that she and the man have sex, despite a mountain of evidence to the contrary. We have found her at his house, we have found him in her bedroom (!!), yet the police say that she is a willing victim and they can do nothing unless she verbally states "Yes, we have sex." Is a hand-written letter from the man telling her that he won't love her anymore if she says anything about thier "sexual relationship" not enough (irregardless of the other evidence)? What would they do if the girl was mute?! Please help, somebody! This man is a child-rapist and she knows no better because she thinks he loves her. He was living with his mother, but now lives with a friend of the girl (age 15, too) and the friend's naive grandmother.
I don't understand why they can't at least get him on (at least) child luring (for the e-mails), child endangerment (for harboring a runaway), and some sort of corruption (for the hotel). Any advice on what to do? There is simply no possibility of a verbal admittance from the girl.
She may have told a social worker of the sexual relationship, because this social worker apparently told the girl once, "If you don't go to school and stop seeing this man, you're going in front of the judge." However, the social worker now refuses to admit that the girl told her anything about the sexual part of the relationship, perhaps to avoid negative consequences.
I confess that I do not know every detail of the events that transpired, but I have been told that all that seems to be missing from this case is the girl's VERBAL confession. I'm confused (and angered) about the way evidence is being handled here. I know that in cases of adultery, for example, knowing the husband took another woman to a hotel is enough to make that charge, irregardless of evidence of "doing" something or not. Yet, the same evidence is not enough to make a charge of ANYTHING when the the man is not married and the "woman" is fourteen or fifteen years old?
Please advise. If you need more details, please ask.
A 25-year-old man used the internet (myspace.com) to track down a 14-year-old girl and lure her to his house. While there, he gave her marijuana and alcohol and had sex with her. They started an intimate relationship, which they are still having. He frequently writes to the girl, now 15, confessing his love for her, and even stole a ring from his mother and "proposed" to her in August '05 (she accepted and wears the ring everywhere). She turns 16 next May. The police have evidence about the sex and inappropriate relations between the two, including hotel receipts (and both admit to being at the hotel, but not to "doing" anything), a hand-written letter from the man asking the girl to say nothing of their sexual relationship ("because nobody will understand how we can love each other"), finding the girl at his house after she'd been missing for two days, e-mails between them about "what great head" she gives, and how great thier sex is...etc. The only thing is that the girl refuses to say, verbally, that she and the man have sex, despite a mountain of evidence to the contrary. We have found her at his house, we have found him in her bedroom (!!), yet the police say that she is a willing victim and they can do nothing unless she verbally states "Yes, we have sex." Is a hand-written letter from the man telling her that he won't love her anymore if she says anything about thier "sexual relationship" not enough (irregardless of the other evidence)? What would they do if the girl was mute?! Please help, somebody! This man is a child-rapist and she knows no better because she thinks he loves her. He was living with his mother, but now lives with a friend of the girl (age 15, too) and the friend's naive grandmother.
I don't understand why they can't at least get him on (at least) child luring (for the e-mails), child endangerment (for harboring a runaway), and some sort of corruption (for the hotel). Any advice on what to do? There is simply no possibility of a verbal admittance from the girl.
She may have told a social worker of the sexual relationship, because this social worker apparently told the girl once, "If you don't go to school and stop seeing this man, you're going in front of the judge." However, the social worker now refuses to admit that the girl told her anything about the sexual part of the relationship, perhaps to avoid negative consequences.
I confess that I do not know every detail of the events that transpired, but I have been told that all that seems to be missing from this case is the girl's VERBAL confession. I'm confused (and angered) about the way evidence is being handled here. I know that in cases of adultery, for example, knowing the husband took another woman to a hotel is enough to make that charge, irregardless of evidence of "doing" something or not. Yet, the same evidence is not enough to make a charge of ANYTHING when the the man is not married and the "woman" is fourteen or fifteen years old?
Please advise. If you need more details, please ask.