That kind of response is one of the reasons why I stayed in such a crappy marriage in the first place. I tried to keep the family together for the kids. I kept trying to work things out. I couldn't admit that my very own wife was abusive. I didn't want to look like a wimp. So, for 24 years I put up with the emotional, verbal and physical abuse. It wasn't until she swung a golf club at my head that I realized I needed to get out. Then when I present the witch with divorce papers, she hits me and then denies it. I fooled myself into believing that I could stick it out until my youngest turned 18, but I just couldn't do it. I did finally stand up to her, but that doesn't mean she won't use her usual tricks to aggravate me again like she did at pretrial.
Don't be so critical until you've walked where I've walked.