What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?TN
I have been charged with phone harrassment charges and also have had a protective order slapped against me from ex-boyfriend and his new woman. I lived with this guy for 6 years, we bought a house together in 2004 (both names on mortgage and deed still) I moved out in 05 after several women told me that he was putting the moves on them, I could no longer take it. I tried to go on with my life, although he made it darn near impossible. He wanted to keep the house, I being the kinder person agreed he could have it as long as he paid the mortgage on time until he re-financed and told him I'd give him time to get his finances in order to do so. Well the first 7 mos after I moved out he phoned me all of the time and all hours of the night, he got also called the guy I had been dating over and over again, he came to my house when I was not home and barged in without knocking while my 15 year old son was home with the boyfriend and demanded to talk to him, he sat in front of my house at all hours of the night and on several mornings. He called my minor son's phone and text him questioning where I was and asking who was at our house, and told my minor son to open the door because he wants to come in and hold me. I finally changed my phone # sick of the calls and he came to my house while I was not home once again and told my son he needed to talk to me that it was an emergency and my son being young and not thinking called my new cell phone for the ex and handed the phone over needless to say he looked on the phone got the new number and left and started calling me. Finally one night he came to my house at midnight and saw that my boyfriend was there so I guess he finally decided to leave me alone atleast partially. Well I let all of this harassment go and hoped to remain atleast cordial because of the situation with the house. I wanted to make sure that he got it re-financed or that we sold it before we cut ties. Well needless to say things have gotten really out of control. He has been paying the mortgage about 45 days behind and in Nov and Dec has fallen to 60 days, I tried contacting him to see what was up and in Nov he told me that he borrowed money from his 401k to pay the mortgage current and to pay off some other bills to be in a better position to re-finance. Well he got the 401k did not pay the mortgage and is still behind. I called him and was very upset at the fact he did not keep his word. I left him several messages and basically told him that if he did not pay the mortgage I was going to move back into the house and pay the mortgage up to date and he could go f#@! himself, he claled me back and told me that he was never re-financing and that he would do whatever he wanted and called me a few names and made me more upset so I in return called his new woman and basically bosted about having slept with him in November behind her back and told her that he was no good, well she didn't really care if her man slept with me or not. I guess I wanted him to go through what he put me through all of those months. They took those msgs about me sleeping with her man although I didn't say it so nice and the calls I made to him to a lawyer and filed phone harrassment charges against me and then protective orders, I went to the police station and turned myself in on the phone charges and have court in march, and have court in Feb on the Protective order, they have statements in the protective order stating that I am an alcoholic and drug addict which is an absolute slander to me, they also state they are in fear for their life because I threatened to kill him......which is false, they statei am stalking and harrassing them which I am not. I did leave messages on her phone about f@&#ing her man and I left messages on his phone about the house but not because I am stalking him, I was upset that I was trying to be kind and work with him on the house and he would not act like a grown up. I have hired a lawyer and filed for Partition on the house and I am sure he has been served by now. I know I should have done this in the first place and never even have tried to be nice. But now I look like the bad girl??? What will the outcome likely be on the charges? Can I charge him for all the harrassment that he did to me? He has turned this whole thing around and tried to make it look like I am harrassing him when all I wanted was for him to pay the mortgage on time and re-finance or sell!!!!!
